I've been teaching 5 years at 2 different schools. At my first school, I was so unhappy, but my current school is pretty good. Now I wonder: are most schools like mine where they attempt to deal with/help students with behavioral challenges or are most schools like my previous school where admins refuse to deal with severe challenges? As a case in point, what would your school do in the following (true) scenario? Intelligent 6th grader. Has ADHD but mom refuses to get a 504 because she doesn't want him to have any stigma. Instead, she emails requests for accommodations constantly. I have him in a music class. One day, during class, he rips his instrument apart. Another weekend he throws his instrument down the stairs at home, destroying it. He also stomps on another child's instrument during the afterschool program. Parent seems unconcerned and simply pays bills. He bites people. One time, we are standing in a line, waiting to go on stage, and he leans over and bites the shoulder of the kid in front of him. Many other students report being bitten by him or humped. He is sexually aggressive. He tells other students (and myself) that he is raping his younger sister. During a field trip, he turns to his group and says, "Isn't my mom (a chaperone) hot? I want to rape her." He threatens to rape girls and boys alike via social media. I discussed many of these issues with his mom and she never really did anything except attribute all of them back to ADHD. When I took my concerns to the principal, he did nothing and encouraged me never to mention the rape issues to anyone else (not report to CPS). When I asked he not be allowed to return to advanced band the next year on the basis of destroying 3 instruments, admin at first agreed, then backed down when mom called to complain. The end result was that I was told by admin that I refused to see the good in him and that I judged him too harshly. Maybe if I were nicer to him and built a better relationship he would not behave so badly (even though many of these issues were outside of my classroom). Essentially, I was told this was all my fault. At my new school, if a student did anything half as bad as these things, they would be reclassified to a special class co-taught by a therapist almost immediately. I would not be expected to deal with these things on my own. CPS might even had been called for the story about raping his siblings. No one would make me feel like the behavior was my fault. So what is it like where you teach? Is everything, even emotional disturbance, the teacher's fault or are you supported?