Would you date another teacher?

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  1. PetrMishikoff

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    Since I am a sub, I get to 'go around the block' so to speak, and meet a lot of nice teachers in different schools. But despite having ample opportunities, I simply cannot bring myself to date another fellow teacher. I just can't go home and talk school again (or over dinner). Do you guys have the same challenge?
     
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    Since I'm married to someone who isn't a teacher, I wouldn't date another teacher :p (I know, not helpful)
     
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    haha.. I think you made my point tho! It's just hard to talk about education 247.. so I think i will marry outside the profession.
     
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    I wouldn't rule someone out simply because he was a teacher.
     
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    I am married to a teacher. We talk about school stuff sometimes but it doesn't overwhelm our conversation or our lives.
     
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    I'm married to a non-teacher and I like it that way. We have plenty in common, but teaching is my thing.
     
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    I'm married to a teacher/coach. We rarely discuss school. I talked more about school with my late husband, who was in engineering.
     
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    I married a non-teacher but he understands the struggles I face with workload, school politics, long hours, unreasonable bosses etc. I think those are pretty universal things that happen in all workplaces and everyone can relate. But the thing I don't think he fully gets is how this job is as mentally straining as it is physical and that that I'm emotionally vested in this too. So when I'm having a bad day because the kids have been off and had a bad day, I feel really terrible. I think only people in the profession fully understand this aspect.
     
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    I would date or marry a teacher but probably not at the same school as me.
     
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    I dated a teacher once. We rarely talked about school stuff, and it was nice to be with someone who understood how consuming the job can be at times.
     
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    Both of my parents were teachers and met in their college education classes. I've never dated another teacher, but my husband was a teaching assistant for several years, so he understands some of my professional life.
     
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    I wouldn't have a problem with that/ We'd probably talk about work a little, but not as in bringing work home, just sharing funny or interesting things. It would be someone who could really understand what I'm going through.
     
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    I would...never have though. Just like w/ any other jobs, we have to know when to stop talking about work & relax, but he'd understand what I go through.
     
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    If I wasn't married.... my reason wouldn't be because of work talk, my reason would be because we'd be broke... bahaha! Horrible salaries here.... thank goodness my husband is not a teacher!
     
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    I would. My parents are both teachers. I guess I'm in the minority, but I think it would be kind of nice to be able to come home and talk about work with someone that "gets it." When I visit home (I live out of state now) my parents and I talk about school a lot. You would also have similar schedules and time off for traveling.
     
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    If I could find one that would have me, yes. He'd be just about the only person who would understand the extra work I bring home, and why I'm so tired all the time!
     
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    I wouldn't have a problem with it. I think it would be nice to be with someone who understands what your job is like. It would also be nice to have similar schedules for vacations and what not.
     
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    I attend church with a married couple who are both teachers.
     
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    For some reason I thought you and your boyfriend had worked in the same place when you were teaching in a former school setting?
     
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    Maybe from a different school........
     
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    Reminds me of a teacher couple I have known. They were the talk of the school, however, because both were already married to other teachers when they met and started an affair. Their affair became common knowledge, but no one thought they would marry after the divorces were final. That's been 20 years ago, they are still together, so it isn't whether you would marry a teacher, but whether you could find, and keep, the right teacher.
     
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    I have 2 colleagues who are married and at work, he is her boss but I think at home, she's the boss. Their kid went to the same school as well. They seem to make it work and no one bats an eyelid because it has always been professional with them, we've never had to walk on eggshells around them or witness a spat in the breakroom or anything like that.
     
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    I've been married twice. My first husband was a musician. He had also worked in a factory setting at one point. He had never been a fan of school as a student. He never was able to understand why I had to work outside of contract hours, whether it be for meetings or getting my classroom set up or doing lesson prep. He comp,aimed about money I spent on work items, even when they were for me and not the kids. He didn't understand the mental tiredness that comes with teaching because it can't be hard to sit behind a desk all day and tell kids what to do, he said. I definitely didn't like that. We divorced after 12 years. It was other issues, not the dislike of my job, but that was a contributing factor.

    With that said, I didn't think I would like dating a teacher because I didn't want to be in teacher mode all the time. However, in December of 2015 I met an amazing guy who also teaches middle school. We are in different districts, so we don't interact with the same kids or people. We have been teaching the same number of years. He understands the career demands. We have similar days off. We have plenty of non-teaching interests between the two of us, so we don't talk shop all the time, but it is really nice to have someone who understands.

    I've known about as many two-teacher households as not. I've even worked with a few couples.
     
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    You're half right. When I was 18 & just graduated from HS, we both worked at the same fast food place, but barely talked or knew each other back then. Then, several yrs later, when I was working at a retail store at this newly built (at the time) mall, he happened to work for another company doing something different, but that's when we actually started dating after a while. I did start subbing soon after.
     
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    I am currently dating one and it's fantastic! We teach different grade levels at different schools in different districts. We understand the long hours, help each other brainstorm, and our vacation time is the same! Plus, it's nice having someone understand the job and everything you put into it.
     
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    Yea, but not one who worked at the same school I worked at. However, I would date the principal at my school. lol Or at least make sure he was sweet on me. I would hate working for a female principal.
     
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    [QUOTE="PetrMishikoff,I simply cannot bring myself to date another fellow teacher. I just can't go home and talk school again (or over dinner). [/QUOTE]

    You'll have other things to talk about. I think dating another teacher is just fine, AS LONG AS HE'S NOT ALREADY MARRIED! :whistle:
     
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    I would date/marry another teacher as long as she was a good person. Heart is what matters.
     
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    I am 25, an aromantic asexual (look it up if you are curious what this is) and can't stand the thought of kissing another person, holding their hand, hugging them, or copulation at all. I consider dating and marriage to be tremendous wastes of time and money to me, lol. BUT, I only hold these standards for MYSELF. I don't judge others for dating or wanting to get married. Here's how I think of it: If I don't date that means more people for you!!!

    However, if I were to add my own $0.02, I would say no, on the condition that the teacher in question works at the SAME school; however, I can't see why not if the teacher works at a different school.

    Sorry I am not much help! I have ZERO experience in these matters, lol. :p
     
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    That's cool!! We all have different tastes and what we want. I can understand the same school because if there are arguments or what not, it can spread.
     
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    Precisely! You don't want it to negatively affect your work performance, or worse, your employment. :)
     
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    Excellent!! I couldn't agree more!!
     
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    I did ... and we are now married, we were from different schools. I wouldn't date someone in the same school, it could be distracting as i may feel a need to want to look her up/care for her, but i will feel awkward in front of students/colleagues/superiors. o_O
     
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    Hell no, but FWB would be okay because after a tough day I need some love .
     
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    catnfiddle - me loving your post! :yeahthat:
     
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    I remember at my old school 2 teachers got married. They had been dating for at least 5 years and nobody knew!! After Spring break they came back to school married :toofunny:
     
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    It's good when all is good. My fear then was also, if you are dating someone in the place and breakup happens, it gets really awkward.. i wouldn't know how to deal with it..
     
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    That IS a good point.
     
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