Hey everyone, its been a while since ive been on here but really could use some advice. This may be a lot but if anyone takes the time to read this i really REALLY appreciate it. Im currently a upk teacher, and Im having a hard time dealing and working with a para in my classroom. This is my third year teaching, and the para has not had ANY prior experience working in a pre-k setting. This is my para and myself second year teaching prek. While I do feel she has gotten better, I personally not sure if Pre-k is the right setting for her. At times my frustrations comes out on her. (which I do feel badly). I feel like I have to do SO much modeling, and explain EVERYTHING bit by bit. After a while it gets annoying and exhausing. What I've decided to do this year is ,I created her own book wtih resources, songs, the schedule and things required of a para to do. What I also do is LIST her responsibilites by schedule of the day and things that may need to be done. I also decided to give her some students that she would focus on and assist with their needs during center time or other parts of the day. I list what she should look for with these students, i even list generallized things required of her for the day. I never thought I would micromanage but I do with her lol. She has no experience, which makes it hard. And her personality I feel is not fit for this environment. Every day I feel like I have to constantly remind her of what to do, how to do it, and so on. Even with the written list. She has gotten better since last year, her confidence is up but I just feel like there is some tenstion between us. She is really nice, and tries so so hard but im not sure what to do. When I go to meetings everyone says how their para's really are in tune with the teacher, and how they are a great team. And how the para can "lead the room". I don't feel confident in her ability to "lead the room". I really need her help and support with the students. I know as the lead teacher majority of the responsibilty is mine, but sometimes I get frustrated because I feel like her focus is not where it should be. Right now I have a small amout of students but with 18 four year olds, I need a strong person. At times I wish I had a co-teacher and not a person with no classroom experience. Can anyone offer some advice? I know people have to start from somewhere but its really frustrating when you have people with no experience and not the right personality. So how can I make this classroom "marriage" work?