Sorry...this is super long because I am still venting! My second grade student seems to be impossible. I would never say this aloud because I have hope for all students, but that is how it feels. On the first day of school, he was blurting and making random noises almost immediately. I followed through with my behavior management system which I had discussed with the class already (warning, clip down and -2 minutes of recess, clip down and parent contact and -5 or more minutes of recess, office visit) and spoke to him at first recess. I spoke with him about what I could do to help and he very sweetly, apparently sincerely asked me to write a reminder note on his desk that he could look at. As soon as he came back in from recess, he was back to the same behavior again. He was very close to having an office visit by the end of the day. I spoke with my principal about the situation. The second day, he was even more challenging. I had to keep him in for a couple minutes of recess and spoke with him. Again he seemed very sorry and sincere about wanting to do well in school. By lunch, however, he was close to an office visit again (due to the constant interrupting, near-maniacal laughter directed at other students, whining about tasks, inappropriate noises, dancing around the classroom, etc...) I sat with him and a few other students in the lunchroom and spent some time trying to get to know him. Most of what he told me was not true, which made me wonder how sincere his promises to do better were. He ended up being sent to the office twice that afternoon. I have never sent a child to the office before, but I was at my wit's end. I had reminded, spent time here and there trying to build rapport, encouraged every moment of good behavior, been consistent with my management system, moved him to an isolated seat to work, and still the behavior continued. Fortunately my principal is very understanding and recognizes that I would never send a child to the office twice in an afternoon unless I was really stumped! She told the student that if he was in the office again we would speak to his parents which seemed to motivate him somewhat. The third day of school, I again spent some extra time with him in the morning switching his desk to a taller one that fits him better. Another student helped him move his things and treated him with amazing patience and forgiveness. I was truly hoping for a better day! Sadly, I am not exaggerating when I say that he spent the majority of the day in the office. The same behavior continued regardless of anything I did (the same consistent management system and reminders of what would happen if he was in the office again). He also made a violent comment that made me begin to worry about whether he might at some point exhibit dangerous behavior. The principal and I sat down with him and the parents after school. All we determined was that he would not be allowed to watch TV if he didn't behave well in school. I have no idea how to deal with a student like this. I have never before worked with a child who was not motivated by rewards, not reached through positive contact and encouragement, not afraid of going to the office or having parents contacted. He is truly setting the tone of my classroom and I hate it. I have glimpses of what it should be like when he's out of the room, but obviously sending him to the office constantly is not a solution -- it's a quick fix for the sake of consistency and the other kids' learning. He's not my only challenging student, but he is the only one who seems to be unmanageable. This is not exactly how I hoped my first year would start.