I am flip-flopping on how to handle a situation with a third grade student of mine. He is a bright kid, but I am completely annoyed by him. He spent the first 2 years of his education at a school where there were basically no rules. He hums, bounces around in his seat, chirps like a bird, and makes farting noises. He doesn't appear to do it with the intent to annoy, so I try to be understanding. I know this boy is being raised in a "free to be you and me" kind of environment at home. He gets his work done when he works independently. I know that I tend to be easily distracted, so I had thought it was my problem and I should try to ignore it. However, he's annoying his classmates too! They often complain about his noises. The one day he's been absent this year they commented on how quiet the classroom was without him. He hangs on people and pokes them. I have been careful to remind him about appropriate behavior in private so as not to make him the scapegoat of the classroom, but he seems to be becoming one in spite. I have contact with his father weekly through a behavior book (all students have them) and also progress reports. Despite my comments, I just get a signature and no feedback. I admit I am hesitant to call dad because I can understand that this kind of behavior might not be seen as a problem at home. I don't want to get in an argument over values. So...what to do? How to walk the line between keeping him from disrupting his classmates and knowing that some of us just have odd idiosyncracies? When I do contact his dad, how can I approach this diplomatically? I don't want to be the teacher that he looks back on as "Yeah, that teacher was awful. She just didn't understand me." Thanks!