Hey everyone! First of all, I'm a brand new teacher. I've been a substitute for 2 years, but this is my first year with my own classroom. I teach Pre-K3, so the ages are between 2 1/2-3. I have such a difficult situation going on, and I feel extremely lost on how to handle it. I have a Mom who has serious anxiety about leaving her son in my class. He's a half day student so he leaves 11:30 every day. For the first 3 days of school he was perfectly fine - no crying, no yelling.. On day 4, he had an "accident" in the school yard during recess, and went into a complete fit. I cleaned him right up and brought him back outside, but he threw himself on the floor in hysterics, crying for mom. None of the kids saw his accident and I also didn't make a big deal out of it, so he wasn't embarrassed. From that day forward, when Mom brings him in in the morning, he's in HYSTERICS. I explained to mom that the best thing she can do is just leave, and trust me to take care of it. I had SEVERAL students crying every morning, but the parents have taken my advice and have left their kid with me, and after 5-10 minutes, the kids stop crying. I explained this to her, and she just doesn't get it. All last week she would come in with him, sit on my classroom floor for a good 10-15 minutes with him, and then ultimately would take him home. HER Mom volunteered to do morning duty in the school last week, and kept coming to my classroom door to peek in, and every time the boy would see her, he would start to cry all over again. I went into the hallway and explained to her that her grandson was okay, but that every time she peeks in he starts to cry. I let the principal know what was going on, and he basically told her she can't be doing that and that if she continues, she can just take the kid home with her. She ended up taking him home. On Monday, Mom brought the kid in, he cried, and she took him again. This time, she took ALL of his belongings with her. Tuesday and Wednesday the boy didn't show up at all, so we all assumed that she was done trying and wouldn't be returning. Dad ended up calling on Wednesday to see how his son is doing in school (they are separated and in the midst of custody battle drama). He was SHOCKED to find out that his son hasn't been to school in 2 days, and that on the days he has shown up, Mom or Grandma have taken him out after 10-20 minutes. Wednesday night I had "meet the teacher" night, and was SHOCKED that Mom showed up. She stayed after to talk to me, and she seemed so rational. She explained her situation to me, and expressed her concerns about leaving the boy in school when he's crying. I kindly explained to her that the longer she stays with him in the classroom, the more he's going to cry to go home. I basically drilled it into her that she needs to drop him and go, and to trust me to call her OR her mother if thing's get too intense. After a nice half hour conversation, she felt confident and agreed to bring him in Thursday and leave him. Dad also informed the school that he'd be there in the morning as well, to make sure Mom really brings him to school and leaves him there. Thursday morning comes, both parents are there. This time, they both left even though the boy was crying (obviously the dad forced mom to leave). Boy calmed down after 10 minutes.. I made him my helper of the day, so he helped me do the daily calendar and dress the weather panda. The kids all made family apple trees on Tuesday, so my assistant helped him to do his. After about a half hour, he went into another crying fit and had another accident. We cleaned him up again, and he was fine. A little while later during snack, he started to cry again. However, It's not unbearable and I feel It's pretty normal, since It's basically like his first real day in school all over again. I saw this behavior with some of the other kids the first few days of school, and after about a week, those kids came out of this stage. It's nothing that I can't handle. HOWEVER... Mom comes in the school an hour and a half after dropping him off, and demands the secretary to get her son. The school tried reasoning with her to just let him finish out the day, but she told them that she's been outside my classroom window the whole time and has heard her son crying non stop since drop off. Non stop is a lie, absolutely untrue. I brought him out to her anyway, and kindly told her that she's mistaken because her son HAD NOT been crying nonstop. I showed her the apple tree that he made, and showed her pictures that I promised her I would take (of him playing with the other kids). She didn't seem to care, she took him anyway. Now this morning comes. She brings the boy in, he's crying. She sits in the middle of my classroom with him on her lap and refuses to get up. I tried EVERYTHING. I brought over his favorite toy, I asked him to be my helper again, I told him about the fun things we would be doing.. I asked mom several times to please go and reminded her of the conversation we had at parents night. She refused to even acknowledge me. When my assistant went over to give it a try, she basically put her hand up to her face and told her to go away. After a half hour of her NOT leaving my classroom, our resource room teacher came in and told her she would have to leave. She outright refused to go. She was then told that she either leaves on her own, or she brings her son with her, but either way, she needs to go. She got VERY angry and started yelling about how terrible this is that no one is allowing her son to "ween" off her, she's never experienced anything like this before, and then called the resource lady rude. She left with her son again. She came back to the school alone at 12 for a meeting with the principal. LUCKILY, I have kept him informed this entire time of everything that's been happening. He thinks that she's absolutely crazy. She made up SO many lies to him, that he knew were lies. She told him that I gave her permission to sit in the middle of my classroom floor (UNTRUE, she didnt even let me SPEAK to her), she told him that I gave her permission to wait outside my classroom window yesterday, and she told him that her son cries for hours on end when she does drop him off. He KNEW her son wasn't crying the entire time yesterday because he came in my room yesterday to check on him, and the kid was not crying at that point. Then she requested a classroom change and he denied it, telling her that she's going to have the same exact problem in another classroom and he refuses to subject the other teachers to it. So all in all, I have an awesome principal who is completely siding with me. I also have e-mail exchanges where she STATES to me that she's happy with me being his teacher and thanking me for all of the hard work that I do. I'm not worried about getting into any kind of trouble, but I AM worried about my sanity with this situation. I really don't want to lose this kid from my classroom - in a way, I'll feel like I failed. However, it can't continue like this. I honestly don't know how to deal with this mother, I don't think anyone does. Me and the principal discussed giving her an option of allowing him to come an hour a day for a few days, but ONLY IF she drops him right off and leaves right away. I'm okay with that, but I just don't believe that she's actually going to drop him and leave. I want to help the boy, I REALLY do. I just don't know how to get through to this mother. It's driving me crazy. I have 14 other kids in this class who I need to look out for. Like the principal told me, I was dealt with a bad hand with this situation, but he has so much faith in me being able to handle it.. If anyone has any insight/advice on how I can make this better, I would REALLY appreciate it, because I'm extremely stressed out.. Thank you!