I think that you misunderstood. bonneb's response, the one that you agreed with, was about children from another relationship. There was no mention of cheating, at least not as far as I saw. In any event, if you felt offended by CG's post, the best solution probably wouldn't have been to offer forth an equally offensive post. That's very much along the lines of, "But he did it first!" which is something we wouldn't tolerate from our students. Edit: I don't see anything mean in CG's post. She said something about how children are a blessing no matter how they come into our lives. (I might have misquoted, but that was the sentiment.) That's not mean.