Thank you for asking. Porn is more insidious than a physical relationship. I despise the porn industry. I despise that it is served up on a silver platter in the privacy of your own home and in EVERY hotel room in our country. It is insidious because it is like a growing monster. At first, a little is enough for a thrill. Then one needs more and more stimulation for the same thrill - kinda like alcohol. It is a downward spiral that keeps demanding more stimulation for a thrill. In my opinion, from the studies I have done, it leads to more and more degradation of the person involved. The studies I have consulted show a direct link between "normal" porn and child porn, and I think we are all in agreement here about child porn. I am not talking off the top of my head - I've studied the porn industry, child abuse, and the link between the two for many year. I have counseled many women who have been abused with a direct connection to porn. People I love dearly have become "hooked" on porn and it has destroyed their families and their lives. It is sleazy and there is not one good thing about porn. A physical affair is more forthright - you can trace the cause, find answers to overcome. I can seee why my statements might have sounded conflicting. I just hate the porn industry with every ounce of my being. And just for the record, I have never been into porn, but I was harmed by porn. My DH has never been into porn, it has never come up on our computer, and he guards against it through an internet system where you choose a couple of friends who are notified if you go to a porn site - keeps everyone accountable to each other.