What Should I Do?

Discussion in 'Elementary Education Archives' started by MusicMaker, Sep 23, 2006.

  1. MusicMaker

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    I'm teaching first grade this year, and I have a parent who wants their child switched out of my class (which will inevitably happen). The parent met with the principal (supposedly b/c she didn't want to hurt my feelings), and now I have to meet with both of them next week, so that the parent can share the "information" with me. Apparently, the parent has kept a journal of things the child has said.
    Apparently, the parent hasn't said anything negative about me, but thinks it's the mix of kids that is not working for the child. The child seems to be very sensitive, and is having attachment issues because she hasn't been in a public school setting before (only private with small class size). Apparently, a boy in the class said something about a private part.

    I have taken care of that and have had no further problems. Although, sometimes I feel like I have to talk to some kids until I'm blue in the face about keeping their hands to themselves and saying nice words (not potty words).

    I have 2 other kids in my class, that really drain all my time and energy and it is really difficult to deal with them. I've talked with their parents, sent notes home (positive and negative). Hopefully, I will have a behavioral specialist to come in and observe them.

    I've had no problems with any other parents or problems in the classroom. All of the feedback I've gotten is very positive.

    I'm just not sure how to handle the situation. I don't know what to say. Especially about the meeting next week. I'm kinda shy and emotional, so I want to be prepared. I don't want to talk a lot, just maybe say, "Do what you think is best for your child."

    Help please!
     
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  3. cindy lou

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    I was in your situation last year with some major differences. It was close to the end of the year (April/May) and my student was really struggling. I had been fighting all year to get the parents to agree to a child study evaluation which they were dead set against.

    Long story short, I went into the meeting and said "It is your decision as the principal and parent whether or not he stays in my class. I will give you my opinion and then leave you to decide what you feel is best." I then stated my case for keeping him in my class (why take a child who is already struggling out of an environment where he knows routines, expectations, etc.?) and left the room.

    They decided it was best to leave him with me, and my principal later told me that she was very impressed with the way I handled the meeting.
     
  4. mrsammieb

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    It is hard not to think this isn't about you. Because most teachers are pleasers... we want everyone to like us. But it isn't about you. It is about their child. I have had a few years where I think, gosh I am so glad my kid isn't in this class. But the mix of kids is what it is. Make a list of pros and cons and take that with you.

    Honestly, it sounds like this mom really wishes her baby was still in a private school. But for whatever reason she/he isn't. Think of it like this is her way of getting her husband to put their kid back where mom want her/him.

    Also, if your children were around these other kids would you like it?

    Hang in there...
     

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