What is the Secret to Teaching AND Having a Life?

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  1. Teacher_Lyn

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    I'm not a party animal or social butterfly, but I do have interests outside of teaching second grade. However, by the time I get home I'm so pooped that all I ended up doing is watching tv, eating dinner and maybe grading some papers or cleaning up my classroom. I rarely exercise anymore, or call friends or do anything of the things I used too.

    On the weekends, I've got so much stuff to catch up on (ie: laundry, friends i haven't talked to all week, spending time with family, getting car tuned up, studying for GRE, grocery shopping, etc) that I dont feel rested.

    THe only way I get any "down time" is by not keeping up with my other responsiblities. HELP!
     
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    It's tough. I'm not good at it.
    The one thing that I started doing is committing to not do ANYthing related to school on Friday evenings.
     
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    I've started to make lists of my evening goals. I feel totally overwhelmed at the moment-I'm working out an hour each night, trying to redecorate the spare bedroom before dh comes home from a business trip on Tuesday, trying to keep track/ship out the books that I'm selling and also trying to stay sane. This is with an hour commute each way. I have to make a list of what I'm going to do that night, and then attack it after school. It helps that I don't have kids and dh works until 7. Even then, I don't get to bed until 11. It's tough!
     
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    Do your best to leave the work at work

    work as much as you can at school make home a sanctuary, a place of refuge and protection,

    and make weekends your time
     
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    Do some chores while you're also doing other things like starting a load of laundry when you're watching a show on tv or grading papers. Another time saver is keeping the dish washer empty so you can put your dirty dishes in right away instead of having to do them all at once. Somedays we do it that way and other days we don't but I'd like it to be that way!
     
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    We're supposed to have a life? Hmmm, never knew that...I should try it sometime.
     
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    Honestly, there are weeks that I am great at having a life. There are other weeks that I feel like teaching is taking over my life. I have learned to just regroup and give myself a task list. I also try to multi-task. I also don't grade every paper...helps a lot!
     
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    I completely agree. When I walk off that campus, I clear my mind of work stuff & enjoy my drive home (or wherever I'm going). I never really had to tk any work home (even when I was a resource specialist). I don't really go out much on weekday nights, but on the wknds, I do fun stuff, errands, etc.

    You have to keep that balance btwn work & school as even as possible...not too much of either one, but hey, if you can get away w/ more fun stuff & less work stuff & still do well on the job, more power to you!
     
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    I'm beginning to wonder if I'll ever find an answer to this question. I love everything I do but I've got to find a way to cut down on planning time. The fact that I am somewhat of a perfectionist doesn't help either.
     
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    Oh, Ms. I reminded me ... beyond refusing to do anything school related on Friday evenings (unless it is going to a football/basketall game), I don't think about school on my drive home. I turn on NPR and get my NPR fix. My husband does the same thing but instead of NPR he listens to audiobooks and podcasts. We both need this quiet listening after work to tune down the brain a bit.
     
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    Im starting to get worried about next year when I will hopefully be in my first year of teaching ....guess I should enjoy having a life now haha
     
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    Things will fall into place at school, it gets easier, routines develop. I always placed a load of wash in the machine the night before, turned it on as soon as I got up, by the time I was ready to leave it was finished. I'd put it in the dryer, place another load in the machine, turn it on as soon as I walked in the door, and repeated the cycle. Let some things go that aren't essential.
     
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    It is very hard. One thing that I do is make sure I am using my planning time wisely at school. Many days I use my planning time to shoot the breeze with my team mates. When I use all of my planning time for planning, it really cuts down on what I take home. If I have a bunch of stuff to do for school, I stay after school to get it done (at least most of it) and not take it home. If I can work in my classroom for a solid, uninterrupted hour, it is amazing what I can get done. But as I have gotten older (!), it gets more difficult. When I get home I just do not have the energy to go run around-just want to relax a while. I am also a believer in Rule# 1--Don't sweat the small stuff. Rule # 2--It's ALL small stuff!!
     
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    I am laughing right now, and all I read was the title of the thread! All of the misconceptions are actually true! Teachers have no lives! (at least I haven't ever figured out how to have a social life outside of my classroom)
     
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    I don't have a computer in my room this year (not by choice, mind you), and it's amazing what I get done. Instead of being on the forum (I have to walk to the lab for this), I actually grade papers and organized, etc. This is while the kids are working. Then I get the stuff done and can leave after school!
     
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    I am best at this when I choose one day to work late - until everything is ready for the next week, usually Thursday night. I try to find out what night a friend will be working late so I am not there alone. Then go home and go right to bed. This gives me the weekend off if I am consistent.

    When I started teaching I made the decision that I would not bring work home. I have a hard enough time keeping the house in good shape without bringing in clutter from the classroom. That has helped a lot.

    For a long time I was coming into work about 90 min before the kids and got a lot of work done before school started.

    One other thing is to go to exercise straight from work. Hope this is helpful!
     
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    If you had a computer in your room would you really be on the forums during class time?:dizzy:
     
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    generally, i keep in mind, (my students love this too!) if i dont want to spend the time to grade papers, and can't get them done in a timely fashion, i shouldn't expect my students to either. So, most of the stuff that is graded is done during class, and only one or two review assignments that i actually grade are due at the end of the chapter. otherwise, everything is done in class and graded on effort/completion. Tests/quizzes are generally 2/3 scantron and the rest is free response. I usually only have to dedicate only one day to "work" outside of work.
     
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    Well, that's nice that you're able to get on this discussion board during work hrs! For me, who's district tracks down everything you do online, I wouldn't want to take a chance, whether I'm on a break, lunch, or anytime during work hrs.
     
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    I'm too busy on work to chat online...where are you finding the time? Not that I'd chat while at school anyway...
     
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    :lol: OMG, you're so right. I actually spend a ton of time checking my email, seeing what's up on A to Z and reading the entertainment section of online newspapers and Cosmo.com during my planning and lunch period.

    Once at my old school the internet went out and I got a lot more work done. However, I feel more relaxed when I get a bit of a break during the day because teaching, than being productive during your planning period and than going back to teaching gets tiring, ya know?
     
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    I'm sure she means that she uses the computer during her planning time, not during instructional time. :)
     
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    I get that...during my planning time though I tend to collaborate with colleagues (I'm a mentor), run copies, check SCHOOL email, parent communications, school paperwork and maybe get a diet Coke, run to ladies' room!!
     
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    lol oh okay i just wanted to be sure because i bet there are some teachers that do actually surf the net and chill out during instructional time. that's actually what i am doing now but ONLY because it's the last of school before the christmas break. so the kiddies are sitting quietly at their desks working on some christmas activities. i tried to let them whisper but they get entirely too loud, so we're in silent mode right now.

    ;)
     
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    :hijack:
    well back to ........the Secret to Teaching AND Having a Life?
    In order to Have a life you have to have "teacher Management"
    this means doing everything you can AT SCHOOL
    Here are some in school and away from school things
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    • Checking E-mail: I used to do that during my "Bell work" which means taking attendance quickly. Answer e-mail at another time
    • Grade Papers as students do "seat work" Modeling
    • Design Test and Graded work with how you are going to physically grade them. Can you line up the papers so you can grade more than one at a time? Plan the answer so you can look for key words in the answer.
    • Use 3x5 cards to keep discipline records (I changed to larger one that could be printed on the computer) use these at parent teacher conferences.
    • Have a set time you leave school
    • Have a set day & time you stay after to "tutor"
    • If you have a significant other plan weekend get-a-ways Close by but only one night (if it close enough to drive sanely Friday then 2 nights) and always leave early Sunday so you are back home before sunset.
    • Plan an at home "get-a-way" on some weekends
    • Eat something in the Morning & Noon just like the kids it is hard to work when you hungry
    • If your commute is long enough get some Books on Tape (or CD or iPod)
    • Use "Soundscapes" type music to calm yourself (do modified yoga)
    • Get in your "Calm place" in your mind as much as you can as a refresher Have a bottle of water handy and use that as a calm place, when you need a refresher moment take a swig.
    • When you party.... Party hardy (or exercise)
    • Keep drinking to a minium
    • Read for pleasure
    • Smile as much as you can
    • Read Harry Wong

    well I had too much time on my hands today

     
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    My Cooperating Teacher when I was student teaching said that AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE stay late every night of the week, if you have to but NEVER EVER EVER stay late on Fridays and make sure your weekend are about you. I don't have my own classroom yet, so I don't know how easy this is to put into practice, but I think it's pretty good advice.
     
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    The title of the thread is the secret to teaching and having a life...so when I'm at work, I'm all about teaching, getting ready for teaching, prepping, working with colleagues...so I CAN leave to go home and have my life...If I surfed the net, shopped for shoes online and post on threads during my work time (preps are so called because so you can 'prep'...) I wouldn't get all my work done which would then bleed over into my 'having my life' time...I'm a professional at work...I play on my own time.
     

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