What is the purpose of lies and gossip?

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  1. futureteach24

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    Have you ever worked in at a school where there was a lot of drama? I have teachers and admin spreading lies about me, talking about me, etc. It's not everyone. It's only a certain percentage of people but I'm tried, disheartened, and frustrated. I just heard a new lie today. I am just trying to keep it together to make it to the end of the school year.
     
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  3. gr3teacher

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    Some people never fully grow out of being high schoolers.
     
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    Ugh. Some people just need to find a better hobby than bringing other down. I'm sorry you're a target.
     
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    I just might go right to the person spreading the lies and confront them not too nicely (in front of other people so they can be properly embarrassed)

    Of course, I don't have to worry about repercussions since I'm retiring!
     
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    That's too bad. Some people are jealous, others think they can build themselves up by tearing others down. Hang in there.
     
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    I totally understand! I know of someone like this who spreads lies. I suspect this person is jealous of other people. It seems that this person thrives on gossip. I try to avoid them as much as possible. I am friendly, but try to walk by quickly as if I have something really important to do! :)

    It is really tough working with someone like that.
     
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    How do you find out about these lies?
     
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    Teachers who have this much time on their hands aren't doing their jobs.

    Of course, they should get paid as much as or more than the professional teachers though...because step pay is "fair."
     
  10. YoungTeacherGuy

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    It goes on at every site I've ever worked at! Sad reality!
     
  11. i8myhomework

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    It happens because as children/teenagers bad habits are formed and carried on into adulthood. In the workplace people get angry, bored, sometimes jealous of coworkers so they spread hate and gossip because it's the best way to build a camaraderie and make friends. The more crap you talk and stir, the more people that will want to join you. People do it to feel "accepted".

    It's immature, silly and if they were properly doing their jobs they wouldn't have time to stand around and do awful things to you all the time!
     
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    Same stuff is happening at my school right now! It's ridiculous...all they do is complain, whine, and backstab.

    I just want to do my job and help kids...is that so hard?!?!
     
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    We teach our students not to bully, but teachers bully. They form cliques and shun other teachers who they don't like. They spread gossip about admins and put down students they hate. A lot of teachers are terrible people. They may be great teachers, and a professional at their trade. But their personalities are rotten.
     
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    Dealing with it now. :(
     
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    yes!

    sorry people are acting this way towards you. to be honest - it's embarrassing for them, not you!!
     
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    I was thinking about one of my coworkers today.

    She's extremely abrasive, moody, and negative! Quite frankly, she's an unhappy person who wants to bring everyone else down with her.

    You can feel her bitterness when you're in the same room with her--it's palpable!!!
     
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    I saw a remarkable speaker recently who explained why negative teachers have to much power-we give it to them. I think some join in because they want to be on the good side of these people, some because they actually enjoy it-they feel that bonds them together. This year I have made a concerted effort to avoid negativity at all costs-I'm not included in as many conversations or invited to baby showers anymore, but it's definitely been less stressful! ;)

    I am also reminded of a quote I once read (I wish I could attribute a source)-be so good that when people hear bad things about you they won't believe it. That's what I always try to keep in the back of my mind.
     
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    I think gossiping and especially lying about people is wrong, period.

    But, IMO, complaining and whining every now and then (aka venting), especially when you do work in an environment that is horrible, can be a release for some. It may not change anything, but it may help you feel momentarily better if you can vent to your co-worker that over half of your First Period shows up after 8:45 when school starts at 8:00 or that you're tired of buying reams of copy paper, pencils, and notebook paper every paycheck because your school can't afford anything and this kids have long run out of supplies. Once again, this is JMO.
     

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