iSaint - maybe your wife is having trouble with the changes because of the greater pressure with bringing in the greater income. Plus sometimes it is really hard on a wife to not be home or have the time to make things in the home the way she likes them - laundry done, groceries in order, etc. Even if hubby helps, there can be some guilt and frustration - I know! My hubby helps so much because of my long hours, and it makes me feel guilty and like I can't ever just sit down and waste a little time or read or watch T.V. My DH is a minister - his hours are different every day! Sometimes he can be home for the evening, sometimes not. Sometimes he gets emergency calls in the middle of the night. Sometimes he works late into the night counseling, so he will sleep a little later the next day. Some days, I leave before he is up and he comes home after I am asleep!! He has gradually become more understanding of the hours my job requires. He thinks it is great I get to have summers off with our kids. Plus, my job provides all of our health care benefits! So he appreciates me working. I try really hard to not bring work home. If I have to stay at work till 6:00, I figure, that is how late a lot of people work. I would rather stay and work so when I get home, even if it is 8:00, I am done with work!! My personal choice would be to be a stay at home wife. But I chose to work, and I am thankful I have a job that I love to go to almost every day!