I need someone to talk to, and I am not comfortable talking to people I know. This deals with my mom, and I don't want anyone thinking badly of her. My mom is pretty preoccupied with her weight. At least in my opinion she is. Breakfast (6:00 a.m.): an apple and banana with peanut butter. On weekends, an egg with bacon. Lunch (2:00 p.m.): a meal, usually consisting of fish or chicken with plenty of healthy vegetables. a somewhat healthy dessert. No bread, because bread could make her gain weight. And nothing else for the rest of the day. About 6:00 p.m. she says "I'm getting hungry. I don't know why. I already had my dinner." I'll tell her to eat something, but she refuses because she doesn't want to gain weight. She tells me she goes to bed hungry, because she doesn't want to gain weight. Yesterday, she told me she felt fat and that she was going to try to cut back on her eating. She lives several counties away from me, so I usually spend the night when I go to visit her. I'm not diabetic, but my blood sugar simply cannot handle that type of eating. I believe a person should eat when they're hungry and stop when they're satisfied. She believes weight gain should always guide your eating. Now that I'm pregnant, she disapproves ENTIRELY of my eating habits. I cannot eat meals, because I will get sick. I eat about six snacks a day, and I try not to eat "junk food". My mom will watch me eat and say, "How much weight have you gained?" "I don't know how you eat so much." "I only gained 20 pounds when I was pregnant." "Just because you're hungry doesn't mean you need to eat. Who told you to eat six times a day? Your doctor? He doesn't know what he's talking about." "I could never eat that much." "You'll never loose this weight you're gaining. You're going to regret eating so much." She was concerned that I was eating quite a bit of protein, because protein will "make you gain weight". She told me to ask my doctor if there would be a way for me to train myself not to eat protein so that I wouldn't gain weight. I could go on an on. She stays busy but complains of being tired a lot. She's complained of this my whole life, though. Her sleep habits are another thing that I won't get into. I get so agitated when she tells me not to eat when I'm hungry. My doctor says my weight gain is perfect, and he advises me to continue doing what I'm doing. I continue to talk to my mom on the phone and try to keep a good relationship with her, but I'm having a hard time going to see her. I love her so much, and I don't want this to come between us. But I find myself holding a grudge at her stubbornness. I say things I regret, and it's hard to know what to say when she says "You've gained more weight in your hips than in your belly. Everyone's been saying so." I just don't know how to handle it sometimes. She is paranoid of doctors and thinks all of them are in a conspiracy to get everyone's money. It seems like a hopeless case to show her what research says about eating, because she is thoroughly against that type of thing. I just don't know what to do. This situation's always there in the back of my mind.