*Sigh* A new thing in our lives. My (only) daughter is getting married to her LONG-time beau. Couldn't be happier. But... BACKGROUND Here goes: **Bride and Groom living out of state (6-7 hour drive. They'll be home scattered weekends-but it COSTS to travel, therefore its limited) - as well as 90% of the bridal party is spread throughout the country. Yet the wedding is back in their home state- HERE. (On top of which, even *I* MAY be moving away a few months before the wedding and will need to come back here to finish plans and have the wedding). **I'm here now (guess who has the bulk of the hosting/the actual grunt work responsibilities? ) the future in-laws are also here but are very ethnic-HUGE communication gap (one doesn't speak English, and one only does somewhat) and therefore - not much help. **Mom (me) perfectionist about event planning, daughter (bride) is the "whatever"/"I'll get to it... someday" type (who RAISED this kid?????) which is driving me batty. Groom is the "I want to be involved...but, when asked, not really interested" type. (Ok, you think - "so let them have a "whatever" wedding and be done with it." But being the parent of the bride - the event also reflects on me. Plus, being my ONLY daughter, I want it to be the best party we can put on.) **The wedding will be in mid-September - but with a fall theme (the dates farther into the fall were either taken or too late to count on warm enough weather. We will have the very beginnings of color-but not the change we would have wished for). Both wedding and reception at the same location (a beautiful golf club - incredible grounds for pictures surrounded by magnificent estates). The wedding will be outdoors (weather permitting) as well as the cocktail hour. The reception in the clubhouse. Between 100-120 guests - not too large/not too small. The bridal party is growing ( ) to 4 couples. (In my opinion, the upper-limits on a smaller wedding - but hey, I am not making the decisions.) **It was easier planning MY wedding years ago because I was the one planning it for ME, and my father could afford most anything. Now it is me doing A LOT of the planning for someone else (trust me-though I am planning a good portion- this is CLEARLY their wedding. Their tastes. Their day.) and there is a definite smaller budget. **After consideration - the dog will NOT be in attendance - even for the short ring bearer walk. She is like an 80+ lb. bull in a china cabinet! She will be boarded. ****** OK... HERE COME THE QUESTIONS What can you suggest?... Best things that happened at your wedding (moments/etc to suggest) :wub: Any experience with preparing for a wedding with all the players spread out throughout the country. Suggestions? :dunno: WORST things to watch out for (DJ catastrophies, sweet table mishaps, hidden problems/costs/disasters to look out for??) ***** Thank you to all you, former brides, or experienced parents of newlyweds for your suggestions! I have a feeling I will be posting about this a LOT!