Are weddings always complicated? Yes. I know you guys don't know me too well here, but I'm dying for some advice on what to do. My boyfriend and I plan to get married in January. At first it was going to basically be an elopement, we weren't going to tell anyone until we got there. Then just be like "we're getting married Friday!" Nice and simple, right? No one could complain about not being able to make it or not being invited. But, my dad wouldn't come on just the pretense of "let's all go skiing!" and I know he would feel left out if he wasn't there. And my boyfriend wanted to tell his mom and family. So I told my mom, her husband, my dad and his wife. And my boyfriend told his family. Now my mom, her husband, my dad, his wife, my brother and sister, plus my boyfriend's sister and her fiance are all planning on coming. Great right??!! Then my mom told my aunt and uncle who we are staying with in CO. Fair enough. But now they think we should invite more of my aunts and uncles and this couple we know who always lets me stay with them when I have layovers in Miami, and takes me out to really fancy dinners all the time. But then wouldn't I have to invite my dad's side of the family? Who probably won't come but will complain about either a) the date b) the place c) not being invited. And of course with inviting the couple that lives in Miami, that's now people who aren't in the family and that opens a whole other door. My mom is now also giving me ideas about a ceremony. My uncle evidently knows some dude who could wed us (for free, in return my uncle will give him $100 of his next pair of skis:lol, and they've suggested half way up some mountain, a midnight ceremony at my uncle's house, etc etc. It's a small town and my relatives know everyone, we could probably get married where ever we wanted! How in the world did this get so complicated? I just wanted an easy courthouse deal. The truth is, I would LOVE to have my mom's side of the family there. They are a freaking blast to party with and it'd be so much fun. I also like the idea of doing a ceremony somewhere with "the coolest guy in the world" (as my uncle calls him). But inviting my mom's side would also mean I'd have to invite my dad's side of the family, who will probably just be obnoxious about not being able to make it. And then, I would also really like to invite this couple in Miami, because they treat me so well and are also really fun to party with. But what about my boyfriend's family and friends? His parents don't even have USA visas so there's no way they could make it. We do plan on having a party in Costa Rica once we get back. Maybe that will be enough for them. And once we tell all these people, there's no way in the world it's going to stay a secret. I don't know... All of this has been rolling around in my head all day and I can't wait until 5:30pm to talk about it with my boyfriend! Anyone have any advice? Words of wisdom? Anything? I thought this was supposed to be "the most relaxing wedding ever"