I can't talk to anyone offline about this, so I'm hoping to vent/get advice/support here. I'm having wedding envy for my friend, let's call her "Sue". I know it's wrong to compare weddings and I should just be thankful to God that I found someone I love and want to spend the rest of my life with but... 1. I'm getting married 10 minutes away from the house I grew up in in a (nice) reception hall. Sue's getting married on a beach in an exotic location that requires a passport. 2. I'm struggling to find a good photographer at a reasonable (less than $1,000) price. Sue's going with her mom today to meet with their chosen photographer who STARTS at $2,800. 3. My parents feel terrible because they can't offer much monetarily because Dad made some bad financial investments creating A LOT of debt and my aunt has Alzheimers and is physically disabled. Mom pays for all her medication, plus to keep her in a semi-independent, 24/7 care facility. (for anyone who has a parent or grandparent like my Aunt, you know that GOOD senior care is expensive) Sue's fiance has to pay child support for 1 child and has another that lives with him, so he's not exactly rich and Sue is a waitress without a college degree. So her parents are covering almost everything AND Sue's mom is throwing her a lavish engagement party at an expensive restaurant where her mom will be covering all her guests meals. My "engagement" party was an informal "pizza and beer" night at the apartment with a few buddies. I'm not having a bridal shower and my bachelorette party will be going downtown to a couple bars where we can dance 4. Every time I go out wedding shopping PRICE is at the forefront of my mind. I'm getting married in a lovely, but used wedding dress because it's already been paid for. Sue is just looking and picking with no regard for price. She already purchased her wedding dress and is having someone else custom make a "reception dress" that looks like it because she "loves to dance" and wants to be able to move. I thought about putting my wedding off a year or two so I could save up and have a big fancy wedding too, but honestly, neither fiance and I want to do that, because - 1. We want to save money for a house 2. We want to have a nice honeymoon 3. We're about to hit 30 and want to start having children ( My mom got pregnant with my brother when she was 20 with no trouble. When she had me at 32, she had A LOT of trouble getting pregnant. They actually had to operate on her so she COULD get pregnant. After me, she was unable to have anymore children And, not to be paranoid, but one of my friends who is a month younger than me recently learned her irregular periods were being caused by her going through early menopause. At age 29 4. We want to be married for a year and enjoy each other before we have children, so the longer we wait to marry, the older I will be when we have children BUT I AM STILL ENVIOUS!!