As a parent who has a child with behavior issues, I find dramatic differences in how schools and teachers deal with my child. In another thread SCteachinTX says all teachers at some point have difficult students but it is how teachers respond and handles these challenges that can make a difference. I see evidence of this every year. Advice: Sensitive Language/Avoid Judgments Be sensitive to the language you are using to describe my child. I would rather hear about the behaviors you are seeing than words that denote judgment such as manipulative, liar, lazy, etc. Building Rapport If you really can't think of anything nice about my child that doesn't come across as forced or superficial, it is likely you haven not worked on getting to know much child as an individual rather than as a problem. If I can sense it, I guarantee he can too. He's likely not going to work for you as well as he might otherwise. This may sound a little too harsh but I see it all too often. Consider working on your relationship with the child first. He has to feel safe and have a connection with you before his defenses can come down. Different Strokes for Different Folks Please remember, it's not about asserting YOUR authority or cookie cutter approaches he MUST follow. It's about learning about HIS needs and doing what you can to bring his skills up to a new level so he can learn and progress. Find ANOTHER way. Don't be too rigid in your thinking. Seek alternative solutions. Find out what has worked in the past. Hold him accountable but do it in a way that supports him and find ways to minimize incidents and de-escalates situations and at the same time teaches him coping skills he needs. Work WITH Parents "Recognize that your students’ parents are the experts on their children. They might not have a background in education, child development, or teaching students with special needs, but when it comes to the child as a whole, the parents are the experts. Listen to what they have to say, share your own observations and work together as equals with a common goal (the success of the children)." (quoted from mmsm on a different thread). Communicate with Parents FREQUENTLY I can't stress this enough. Communicate positive stuff early so when something negative comes up, I'm more likely to believe you LIKE my child and have his best interest in mind. Make sure your positives are not fluff. I can tell the difference. Make sure your positives tell me what skills he is being taught related to his issues and how he is progressing. Make sure his positives talk about OTHER things he is good at as well. Stories are good. WHAT A DIFFERENCE YOU CAN MAKE! Teachers and Admin, let me tell you... If you just saw the difference between how my child is approached from year to year, you would see the difference truly is 180 (not perfect but definitely miraculous). Sometimes I realize it can be hard. I am a teacher too. I know it will be a learning curve. First and foremost though, you have to have the right ATTITUDE. To those teachers who have produced the 180 results, you have my deepest gratitude! --It has been a frustrating week.