Troublemaking Parents! We've all got 'em!

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  1. WindyCityGal606

    WindyCityGal606 Enthusiast

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    Why is it that the loudest and rudest parents are the ones who have principals dancing like a puppet? I really think it sends a message to their kids that if you are obnoxious and scary, people will LISTEN to you!! You know every school has them. Those parents that we dread seeing walk into the building because we just know they are not there do do or say anything logical. Troublemakers!! What are yours like?
     
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  3. agdamity

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    One year I had a really obnoxious student (she was always in trouble for fighting, being rude and disrespectful, prank calling my house from in school suspension, etc.) and the mother actually sat in a conference with my principal, assistant principal, and myself and claimed I was a bad teacher because a. I didn't have children, and b. I was racist (ALL the students in my class were the same race--they were all treated equitably). This continued time after time until she finally moved her daughter to a different school because she was getting sent home daily.
     
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    These are the same parents who wonder how on Earth their little darlings end up in the court system. Umm...hello...you need to make your kids take responsibility for their actions. If you always blame someone else, your kids will too. I had a mom this year who was always very nice to me. Well, her son (who had a history of behavior issues) got into trouble for bullying a little girl in our class. Because he was caught doing this in lunch, our cafeteria hostess and I agreed he should be moved to the quiet table. Well, mom threw a fit because he was being segregated. When she realized that she was getting nowhere with the principal in our conference, she started to list other things that upset her, like the fact that I told her son to "mind his own business" after he had butted into a conversation with another student 5 times. I was nice when I said it, but of course, she decided I was the devil for saying that. My principal backed me up 100% and told the mom she knows me well enough to know I was not saying it to be mean. She said sometimes kids NEED to hear that.
     
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    wow she prank called your house? holy cow. the nerve of these kids!
     
  6. Master Pre-K

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    I was in the "what do you think" thread, and I had some real issues with other ethnic parents who were into hugging and kissing!

    My opinion is that kids need love and affection, and I'm am all for that. However, I personally do not wish to hug and ESPECIALLY kiss (yes on the lips) another female, or male adult for that matter, that I don't have a personal relationship with, on a daily basis. It is artificial, uncomfortable, and just something I don't do.

    I lost my job because the Parent Committee complained, "that teacher doesn't hug and kiss me and my kid". I was told my job description clearly states, must show appropriate affection and kindness at all times, or something like that."

    You can't make me kiss somebody! :eek:

    Yeesh!!!
     
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    ^^^ Wha????

    Do they want you to get sued?
     
  8. Master Pre-K

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    What can I say? When in Rome, do as the Romans. Otherwise, you don't have a leg to stand on. I had a hard time finding jobs in preschool after that area. Almost all programs were majority of this minority, which wasn't a minority at all. I was!

    But don't worry, I did sue them...but not for that! Refusing my EAP rights when I was going thru a divorce. Supervisor kept demanding why I was taking personal days. Hey, it's personal...I don't have to tell you!

    The entire staff and all the families were from two different cultures. Both had a deep and sacred regard for marriage. The minute I made it clear (to the secretary) I would not take phone calls from my ex, the whole building tried to get into my business...and demanded I stay with him!!!

    The Parent Committee felt I was "unstable, and no longer a good fit."
     
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    I had a parent last year claim that I wouldn't allow her child to eat lunch. She claimed that as soon as her child sat down I told everyone to put their trays up.
    Yah right! Because we were Pre-K, we were given 25 minutes to eat, as apposed to the 15 minutes everyone else gets. I spent my entire lunch time telling her child and other students to turn around, stop talking and eat. I was the one not allowed to eat.
    She believed what her child told her and went straight to the principal. I, of course, got into trouble, even though I had done nothing wrong.
     
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    We had a little bandy rooster of a man who came in regularily to complain about his children's teachers. His kids, however, were adorable. I think he was pumped up on steroids. It got to the point where he had to have an escort from the office walk with him to the teacher's room and stay until he said his piece and left. He claimed we were all racists, and it didn't matter to him if you were black, white, hispanic, or green. In a sad pathetic way, I kind of miss the excitement the little guy would bring as he strutted down the hall.

    He ran for state senator last year and some faculty members put some of his signs in our principal's yard.
     
  11. WindyCityGal606

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    There's a saying that I wish teachers could post to parents..."I promise to not believe everything your child tells me about what goes on at home if you promise not to believe everything your child tells you goes on at school." In other words...yeah lady, and you should hear what your darling says about you!!:eek:hmy:

    I'm really surprised your principal defended her behavior. It's always the loud mouthed parents who make the principals dance like puppets!! I guess that's where the children learn it. The louder they are, the "righter" they are!!
    I had to force myself to speak up for things for my own children once I taught for a few years because I felt like I was the only mom in the world who was polite and we all know that in the world of school administrations, polite parents get no where. They even make our ears stand up. It's not right!! I am nver rude to my children's teachers but I don't let them try to bulldoze me with anything either. Hey, it's what I do with some parents so I don't want it done to me. Once they know we're teachers, they usually treat us differently. And that's not right either!!
    It's all madness I tell you!!!!:rolleyes:
     
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    I had a mother who would call me constantly. I'd return her phone calls and she'd be like "light a fire under my daughter. Do whatever you have to do. Give her detention. I don't care whatever... it takes to make her get an A+. She'll be punished if she comes home with anything less." This kid had one of the highest GPAs in the school and was an A student already. She had no self confidence and I'll bet that was why! I'd assure the mother that the kid was a good student and all I'd hear was (from her own mother!) "I know she's not very smart but if she studies that's all it takes to get good grades." The funny thing was I thought the girl was pretty intelligent and the mother seemed less than mediocre but whatever...She called my department head...apparently I was not intimidating enough towards her daughter. I felt so bad for the girl
     
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    At my other school they used to call the police on these types of parents.

    I had one crazy parent once who the police didn't get called on but she accused me of stealing her child's diapers and using them on other kids. Then said we must be giving her kid things he was allergic to and that is why he was missing so much school and then said I mean I'm giving him stuff he is allergic too.
     
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    I have had a large number of those parents. I have done just about everything possible to appease them. We don't have good administration at my school, so parents now have a licence to trash teachers. I have been told to make IEP modifications for a non-IEP student and when trying to get the support services for this child, I have been persecuted. We all have at my school. Last year was bad, and now I don't know what to look forward to.
     
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    I had a child with extreme emotional/behavioural issues and we had a meeting with his mother. The Friday before the meeting she called the vp crying that they needed to get him on medication because she couldn't handle it anymore. At the meeting on Monday, the psychologist spoke, and she verbally attacked him and told him that she wasn't putting her kid on medication (which he had not even mentioned). She yelled at him for 15 minutes, and then turned it around on me and yelled at me for 15 minutes. The prinicpal had to stop the meeting. She stormed out and screamed (I mean literally was screaming) CURSE words all the way down the primary hallway. SCARY!
     
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    I always find it funny when parents complain that their child isn't doing well at school because they are 'bored'. I have seen parents demand enrichment for their 'gifted child' even if that child is barely getting by with the classroom work... I totally agree that some children do need extra enrichment, but sometimes the child is just not doing well because they don't listen, are lazy, don't complete assignments or homework, etc...
     

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