So everyone, I want to talk about the topic of 'Tough Love' Classroom Management. I am simply a Substitute Teacher, so my techniques have to be somewhat unique simply because I only deal with Students for 45 minutes each period (things have to be quick, to the point, and very well managed!), but at this point in my career, I've been a permanent Sub at one of the local High Schools, and as of now, I've taught every Student in the building multiple times and have a fantastic relationship with all of them. However, for me, I have a very Tough Love style, and it seems to work wonders. Now, that's not saying I'm mean, or that I'm not appropriate in my grammar or language - I'm as decent as any of these Coaches who also Teach (actually, I'm quite more sophisticated...) BUT for Classroom and Behavior Management, I'm simply Tough Love. And from my point of view, it works wonders - my Students absolutely adore me, they joke around with me when appropriate, they work silently when appropriate, and I never, ever have to actually "scold" anyone or give out any sort of consequences. My Students get the point and get it in a way that they also feel supported and liked. Even if I'm Tough Love, I ask the Students about their day, they ask me about mine, we talk about Classroom Subjects as well as Interests and Accomplishments, and they always are so focused when I'm in the room - and I've seen these same Students TEAR UP other Subs in the building! There's so many folks who are obsessive about pleases, thank-you's, and being pretty and pristine when Teaching. Has anyone, especially those who are having problems, simply tried being themselves, being human, being Tough Love and yet also extremely Supportive? Because as it is, I simply love my job, I love my Students, and they all love me. I've pretty much disregarded any types of Classroom Management lessons or books, going with my own style, experiments, and techniques, and I've wound up with amazing tools. But then again, I do also have that "passion" for coaching and correcting behaviors on the spot. I love being the one to make that difference, not an administrator or guidance counselor. I love being that influence even beyond educational subjects. My Students love my points of view and tend to be in awe at how successful I am in the class. My Students don't argue with me (and if they rarely do, I argue back! And win!) and I always remember that I actually WANT my Students to be quite brave - if I ever make a simple mistake in the Classroom, my Students always tell me out loud right then and there, and it always helps because I wouldn't want an Administrator to walk in if I've spelled 'theory' wrong on the board! I chuckle at my own mistakes, and the banter between me and my Students is usually very funny and friendly. Lastly, I don't even have rules, I don't have expectations, these are teenagers! They don't care about that mess! What I do is simply tell them that their mess is over with! It's done! It lets them know that I know that they know their malarky is ridiculous! I don't get caught up in rule and expectation battles! I let my Students know that they are old enough to make the right choices, that they already know how to behave, and it always works. It's really successful. The point that proves it though, is that I have over 50+ hours of experience in simply observing classroom teachers. The new ones always have horrible classes because they stick to the uptight script. The old, nearly retired teachers have fantastic classes because the teacher is blunt, to-the-point, yet friendly and supportive, and it's such a better atmosphere if you really pay attention. The students are learning better, the teacher is happier, and the systems are just better without the teacher even trying. The students just are told how it is, and learn to respect the teacher, not the system. At the end of the day, what do you want? Do you want the Students to respect you and your personal peeves, or do you want the Students to respect the "system"? Because they won't do both. You have to choose between the two, in my opinion, and I choose "me". Especially for my own sanity and enthusiasm. And I have wonderful Students simply because I never listened to any higher-ups! Literally, the worst-behaved Students in the School absolutely adore me and sit quietly for me! And shake my hand when they leave class! (They'll even whisper what a bad-@ I am when they leave class... that always makes me feel so effective!) But I also want to hear back about what you guys think works as well! Do the prim and proper styles also work for you? Or have you found yourself becoming more blunt and honest as time goes on, with better results? Thank you!