I am struggling with this right now. I don't want to have children of my own and it has been something that has been building inside me since I started teaching full time. My husband understands but it very hurt. I am 26 and I have been married for 3 1/2 years to my husband who is a police officer. Our careers are crazy and I can not imagine going through my school day and then having to take care of more kids at home. My job is very stressful anyway and will be more so b/c instead of three of us, there will be me and one other person will be teaching elementary physical education to over 500 students every day with upwards of 90 kids at one time. I am literally on my feet all day long and I am moving and monitoring at all times. My downtime is my lunchtime in which I eat quickly to set up for my afternoon classes and the conference that I get in the morning and I usually spend a large chunk of it setting up for my morning classes. When I go home everyday, I am EXHAUSTED. But, I love my job. My life could be easier if my husband had a 9-5 Monday-Friday job, but he doesn't. He is a police officer who works the midnight shift and his days off are in the middle of week. So what that adds up to is if I were to have a child I would: 1. Spend most nights by myself with a child without help from my husband after coming home from school. In the middle of the night, I sleep alone, so there would be no taking turns on who has to get up and take care of the kid. It would be me and me alone getting up every time. 2. Spend my weekends off by myself with a child without help from my husband b/c he works on the weekends. I am afraid that having a child at home would effect my performance at school. I can't be tired at school b/c I unlike a majority of other teachers, have upwards of 90 children in one class so I can't slack off or something bad is going to happen. Please tell me there are other teachers out there who have struggled with this....I feel all alone b/c I see so many of my friends having children, and I think, thats a cute kid, but I have NO DESIRE to have one of my own. I think I would be miserable in fact.