Third grader wearing high heels

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  1. Resentful

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    Another thread got me thinking about something I saw at my school a bit ago, but didn't give any thought to it since. I had to go into a third grade class for some paperwork during a prep. Anyway, I saw a girl in high heels. :eek: The teacher didn't seem to mind. So, I didn't make a stink about it. I called my mom later that day and it came up. She really was poed about it. What do you guys think of s third grader wearing high heels?
     
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    Totally not appropriate. Plus, it's a safety hazard. There should be something in the dress code about "appropriate footwear".

    We recently had a sixth grader in snakeskin platform pumps. The platform had to be at least 3-4 inches high, and the heels were sky high stilettos. They looked like the type of shoes Lady Gaga would wear. I reported it to the principal and the girl had to change her shoes.
     
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    I have noticed this A LOT recently. Even younger students are wearing heels, tall boots with heels or wedges, and just generally completely ridiculous footwear.
     
  5. FarFromHome

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    I also have noticed a lot of younger students wearing heels and wedges. I don't like it, but I've usually let it go unless they had PE that day or they weren't able to walk correctly in them. If it looked like they were going to get hurt, then I would say something.
     
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    I don't think it's a big deal at all. Here in CR I see tons of crazy club wear being worn by younger girls... to *church*.

    We have bigger battles to fight.
     
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    The kindergarten students wearing their short and sexy sweater dresses (but I won't go there—well, I kind of just did, but I digress...) and stumbling around like Bambi in their fancy shoes would NOT make it out in good time and safely for any of our frequent emergency drills.

    Common sense, parents...common sense. :huh:
     
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    We wear uniforms, but honey when they are allowed to dress up for a program or something--you definitely see heels, even on the 5-year olds (make-up too :rolleyes:)!

    I would be worried if it was something they did a lot that it would mess up the muscles in their feet-I know adults with that issue.
     
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    My daughter is in 3rd grade and has worn little kitten heels to school before. I would never let her wear anything higher than that though.
     
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    Last week I saw a first grader wearing some wedge sandals that looked like something a 20 year old would wear.
     
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    Isn't that dangerous for growth at their age?
     
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    Same here with the school uniforms. I've seen some 3rd grade students with school shoes that have heels. Not a high heel, more like a 2" heel.
     
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    Basically this. If the kid isn't in danger of getting hurt because of shoes (and if the shoes are dress code), it isn't my business.
     
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    I have a student that wears glittery heels regularly. They are less than an inch high and the only annoying part is that she sometimes clicks her heels on the floor while I'm trying to teach. She has appropriate footwear for gym and recess, so I don't really mind.
     
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    I think very low heels, 1 inch or lower are perfectly fine. Very high heels are probably not safe, and if they look too sexy are not appropriate either.
    I guess it's up to the teacher and the school whether to fight that battle or not. I haven't really seen very high heels on students, not even in middle school when I subbed there. Most of the girls seemed to be into boyish stuff, like wearing jeans, Converse and a T shirt. When they wore heels, they were ok.
    Maybe times have changed :(
     
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    I don't see any of my kids wearing high heels at school and I teach HS so that is a little weird to me. However, I wouldn't make a fuss about it as long as she had proper shoes for PE and she was able to walk in them okay. Obviously, it should also be within the dress code.
     
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    I see it all the time, and we don't really have a dress code, so whatever goes.

    If I see an issue, I casually say to the child, that they maybe shouldn't wear those shoes again because _____.

    Only shoes I've ever seen the principal call home about were the boys who wore football cleats to school.
     
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    It upsets me to see little girls wearing heels and makeup. :(
     
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    We have uniforms as well, but like another poster said, when they dress up, it's "Katie bar the door" lol. They mimic what they see the adults wear - micro skirts, spandex leggings, crop tops, heels, makeup, you name it. It's what they see, learn and are given at home.
     
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    It is funny because I just spoke with my husband about this over the weekend. I have two kindergarten students who are cute as a freaking button, but they dress "sexily" on a regular basis and it really bothers me. It's obviously all a matter of opinion, but it disturbs us both. Of course, it's not just a pair of "grown up" shoes every now and then....much more than that.
     
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    Sure is quiet here now. I think most of us understood it to be that Resentful wasn't complaining solely about this topic to her mom. They were having a general conversation & the topic came up, in which her mother was probably frustrated to hear about things like that. My mom would be too.

    Well, many parents today don't let their kids be kids anymore & it's really sad. Girls have from ages 16 to probably 60 something yrs of age to wear heels. They're not trying to impress the boys already...I hope! :mad: Well, these days, probably so. Plus, like Mike said, the health problems from wearing them this young will probably occur I'm sure.
     
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    I have two kids who dress within the dress code, but they definitely don't look like little girls.

    But...have y'all gone shopping for girl clothes lately? It's all skinny jeans and slinky looking tops.
     
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    I'll admit the only place I see clothes for girls is at Target and even then it's only in passing, but I think the stuff they have out is appropriate.

    I have cousins who are in 10th, 8th, and 5th grades. They all dress appropriately. Not sure where they shop though.

    I do see a lot of girls dressed inappropriately for their ages when I'm out and about. High heels don't bother me, it's the short skirts, skin tight clothing, low cut shirts, etc...
     
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    Today it was 64 F in December, so naturally everyone was wearing more spring type clothing. However, these mini skirts that the girls wear....sheesh. The hem literally stops right where their cheeks meet their legs. I am constantly doing a little wiggle motion, silently alerting them to "pull it down"!
     
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    :agreed:
     
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    As a mother of a little girl, it is hard to find clothes that cover and are modest. For some reason the people that make jeans for little girls thinks they need to show their tushy.
     
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    I found this out when I went shopping at Christmas time. I had to buy clothes for a 9 year old girl that my community club was sponsoring for thie holidays. I had to look in 3 stores to find something modest, especially since I didn't even know the girl so it had to be something appropriate. I found a black sparkly sweatshirt that cost a lot but it was better than buying something slinky!
     
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    Now that this has been bumped, just wanted to add....

    On the COLDEST day of the year, I wrote up a girl for wearing a too short skirt and a tank top with lacy bra straps hanging out. :eek:

    And about five other girls were wearing similar short skirts.

    This is the style they all wear. Is this popular anywhere else?
     
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    Those skirts pass the fingertip rule.:whistle:
     
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    When the girls walk, the skirts slowly inch upwards. We tell them to pull it down because, you're right, it is SUPPOSED to be past fingertip.

    I also think the style is just too sexy for a 13 year old. Not to mention it's completely inappropriate when it's 14 degrees outside.
     
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    Wouldn't fly at my school - skirts and short have to hit the middle of the back of the knee.
     
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    I don't think anyone should be wearing skirts that short until they have practiced and practiced how to sit in them and how to get out of a chair. Seriously, if you aren't willing to hold your knees together when you're seated, wear some freaking pants!
     
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    All I'm gonna say is thank God for uniforms!
     
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    The fingertip rule is ridiculous. Obviously everyone is different. My personal opinion is that those skirts are too short...period.
     
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    Amen! I taught at a school without uniforms for 4 years before coming to a school with uniforms for the past 4 years. We had so many more issues with dress code at the non-uniform school! I don't miss arguing about skirt/shorts length and shoulder strap width at all!
     
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    Ugh, I would do ANYTHING for uniforms. Both teacher and student uniforms. I think there are so many benefits to uniforms, and not just cutting down on dress code infractions. I have made my love of uniforms loud and clear at my school, now I just need to get up the courage to mention it to my superintendent haha.
     
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    We have uniforms, and I am not opposed to them. I do find that there are a lot of headaches with them. Girls roll up skirts, boys wear shorts that are similar but not the uniform ones, and the list goes on and on.

    Students get in trouble for wearing the uniform incorrectly. Having uniforms hasn't cut down on dress code infractions. Students still like to push boundaries.
     
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    I've taught in schools both with and without uniforms, and it seems like there are several issues that resound either way. At the school with uniforms, the rules were never strictly enforced especially regarding footwear, belts, and the like so the kids pushed the envelope by wearing jeans or sweatpants instead of navy pants, all sorts of boots and heels instead of plain shoes, untucked shirts (which I loathe when we're talking button-down shirts), and much more. Nothing was ever done, so the kids who started out following the uniform soon would stop obeying part of it because of the others.
     
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