I think it makes perfect sense--my DH offered to relocate so I could get a teaching job, but that would mean he'd be looking for a new job in a new area. He's a firefighter with 10 yrs in, he'd lose all his benefits, senority etc. Stay where your husband has connections, something will come up for you. If he's doing well in his job, there won't be as much stress on you. Good luck!!!