However, no matter how excited we are about our events, the wedding, the shower, the other stuff, it doesn't seem that our 'friends' and family are all that excited for us. We've sent invitations and while I expect some to decline for various reasons, I can say I'm surprised at the high rate of those declining. Is it the economy? Is it our age? Neither of us have ever been married and we're nearing 40. I admit there are some mitigating circumstances. My family live far away and are not financially set or healthy enough to travel so far. So none of them can come. Maybe we'll go visit them after the wedding. But that's not the same. In lieu of family not being able to attend, I stretched out to friends in the area where I do live. These aren't life long friends but people I've spent positive time with. I guess we're not as friendly as all that. Her extended family (not her immediate family), by report only, seem to be a little on the insufferable side. You'd expect some familial obligation, wouldn't you? I think we're both a little disheartened that things seem to be progressing poorly. Any thoughts?