The Father of Adam Lanza Searches For Answers...

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  1. teacherman1

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    http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/2014/03/17/140317fa_fact_solomon

    I read this piece in The New Yorker today. My overall feeling is one of sadness - of course sadness for the children, sadness for the teachers, sadness for the relatives and friends of the victims.

    But also extreme sadness for the tormented life of Adam Lanza and his family.

    There is no doubt that Adam had problems - big problems - which his parents recognized early on and seemingly tried their best to deal with. As a parent, I don't know what I would have done differently had he been my son.

    I am sorry that anyone would have to go through what this family had to go through. And if I saw Mr. Lanza today that's exactly what I would tell him.
     
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    I couldn't even read it. As a father of two children it is heartbreaking all the way around.
     
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    I hate how when things like this happen the parents are blamed.

    I can't imagine feeling so helpless. How horrible that must feel:(
     
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    I don't think anyone with any sense blames this guy's parents.
     
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    There was a ton of backlash against the mother when this happened.
     
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    There are people who are now even accusing him of speaking out to make money-people can be cruel.

    I saw an amazing segment on 60 Minutes a few weeks ago about how hard it is to get mental health care-even for kids. So even when parents recognize the signs (and here I think because he was on the autism spectrum some of the anomalies in his behavior chalked up to that), there's not much that they can do. I can't imagine as a parent seeing your child go through mental health issues and not be able to do anything about it.
     
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    And once your child becomes an adult, there's even less you can do.

    When a Mentally Ill Child Becomes a Mentally Ill Adult
    "They've (parents) learn that as difficult it is to provide safety for a mentally ill child, it is exceedingly more difficult when that child becomes a mentally ill adult. Laws that previously gave parents control over their child's treatment disappear and are replaced by new laws that protect the individual's freedom and privacy. Barred from their child's medical decisions, parents find themselves in an abyss of helplessness and guilt."
     
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    Yeah but I think that is another story... plus something like that you know can get real heated on these forums.
     

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