Telling Students you are Leaving

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  1. callmebob

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    How long do you wait to tell students you are leaving the school and wont be there next year? I have only ever been at one school, so it has never come up. Not only am I leaving the school, but leaving teaching. I want to let them know, just figuring out the right timing and the right way to say it.
     
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    I don't say anything unless the kids ask me.
     
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    And leave them hanging so when they come back they don't know what happened to you. Why?
     
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    I don't think it leaves them hanging at all. Teachers change all the time.
     
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    Agreed! :thumb:
     
  7. callmebob

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    Well I have kids I make connections with. Over the years I have had kids who once they leave my class in the following year or years, they come back down to my room, we visit, talk, etc. It doesn't happen with all students, both those you make strong connections with. And then a lot of the others look forward to just saying hi and seeing you again the following year. If they don't know you are coming back, then they don't get a chance to say good bye, that is harsh.
    I don't get what the negative is in telling them? Why keep that information from them? My class knows all kinds of things about me outside of this classroom.
     
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    It probably depends on the climate of the school-- I know families at my school would probably have a lot of questions if they weren't told who was leaving (and often times why) at the end of each school year. Mine is a smaller private school, though, where teachers teach each class multiple times and become quite familiar with most of the families.

    I think it helps the students know that the teacher didn't leave because of them (some students, unfortunately, might take pride in "making" a teacher leave, and others might worry that they caused a teacher to leave). It also probably squelches any potential rumors, such as "he/she got fired" or anything like that. And, most of all, if you have formed relationship with the school and the families, I think they may feel a bit abandoned if they're expecting to see you around next year or they expect you to be teaching a younger sibling in future years.
    Again, though, it varies by school culture.

    Teachers at my school usually wait until mid to late May to share with fellow staff and students that they won't be returning. There's really no reason to mention it much earlier that I can think of, though it might dampen the last day a little to save it 'til then.
     
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    Yah I don't want to save it to the last day. I know of teachers who have done that who were leaving for other districts and I would just rather tell them sooner. I figure any time after state testing is over would be just fine.
    I want to make sure students know I didn't just leave the school for another school. I want them to know I moved on to another career. I think that is relevant.
     
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    When I left Utah, I told my kids I was leaving. I had to take a couple of days off to fly down and sign my contract. I think it was last part of April. I told them as soon as I came back.

    My co-workers and kids (and some parents) gave me a small going away party. I took pictures of my new school ect and shared those in a power point presentation. (Mostly because I was leaving the West and moving to the Deep South and wanted the kids to see another part of the country)

    I would have never leave my kids without telling them.
     
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    Can you tell us about your new career?
     
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    I would tell my students because I teach at a small school and teachers don't leave unless they retire. I'd tell them closer to the end of the year, though.
     
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    Yes, I would tell them. I don't understand how someone could say it's irrelevant. If they show up in the building next year and hear that you are gone forever, they'll think it's mighty odd that you knew you were leaving and never mentioned it.
     
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    I don't think you need to tell them. By the way, congratulations. I know you have been wanting this for quite some time now.
     
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    Yes, please do.
     
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    I don't want to jynx anything, hopefully I can tell you next week.
     
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    I remember you talking about wanting to change careers. I hope it works out and look forward to hearing about it. Don't want you to jinx it either:)
     
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    I can understand that.
     
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    I respect those who wouldn't tell, but I can't imagine not sharing that information. It's seems unnecessarily mysterious to me. I would tell them on the final day as you go through goodbyes.
     
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    I'll be leaving my job this year & most of these kids I've had for 2 years. I only work with them 2 days a week (per school). I plan to tell them on the last day I work with them (which won't be the last day of school). I may have a little gift for them OR I'm still debating if I should have a pizza party for them.
     
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    I told mine the week before school got out. It was nice to be able to say my goodbyes. Besides, in our school the kids help back up the classroom so they knew something was up when I was packing and taking everything with me.

    I am glad I told them. It was emotional and there were tears but I got to say goodbye to many people I care about
     
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    Well it is official. I put in my resignation last week and now this week I was offered a new position for the new career. I will be working as an auditor for the division of school audits for my state. I am excited to start this new career and I get to continue to use my background in education and still make a positive influence in that area. With a few weeks of school left at this point I do plan on telling my students next week.
     
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    Congratulations!
     
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    Sounds like a wonderful opportunity for you!

    Don't forget about all of us :hugs:
     
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    Congratulations! I'm glad you'll still be helping students learn from your vantage point.
     
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    Congrats!
     
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    Congrats!
     
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    Congrats and good luck with the talk. I know I'd want to tell my kids, but I'd be emotional. I was emotional when I left my first job...and it was only a 1 year LTS and they had nothing for me the next year.
     
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    I agree that you should tell them. That way they know coming back in September not to expect to see you. My previous students always stop by in the beginning of the year- especially on the first day of school. You don't even have to tell them that you're leaving teaching or too many details but it's fair to let them know you won't be there.
     
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    I told my students at the end of the day on Friday. It was already an emotional week, and these next 3 are not going to be easy. So bittersweet.
     

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