suggestions needed and a question - LONG So, how far do you think teachers should go to ensure a student's success? I imagine that for most the initial response would be something like "we need to do whatever we can!" But what if YOUR idea of success is different than that of your student or his parents? I have a student that is on the border of an A and a B in an advanced sophomore course. She is a young freshman that is skipping the prerequisite. Students here have the option of skipping that course and taking the AP version of it instead later. Which gives them more time to take other AP classes too. The girl's mother has been emailing me once or twice a week, asking the same questions - Can she get an A and What suggestions do I have to help her be more successful. I've told the mother than an A is possible, seeing that the girl is on the border and finals are coming down the road. I've also told her that her daughter is doing everything I could ask for - she pays attention in class, she is motivated, she reviews past tests, she asks questions and she turns in her work. She and her mother tell me that she studies every night. If the child is studying every night (and I do believe she is) then I am not going to suggest more studying. I am not going to suggest a tutor. *I* think the child is doing just fine. So about twice a week I get these questions and I reply with the same answers. Now Mom wants a meeting. Fine, it is my job to meet with parents when requested. But how far do I go and how much time should I put into this "problem?" If this girl gets a B in my class she will not be able to become valedictorian down the road. Her older brother was at our school. The parents worked hard to make that happen. For example, the brother did not take PE at our school. He took it at a local university under dual credit, basically giving them AP credit for PE. The same brother was the president of our student tutoring program, so the family does know tutoring is an option. I am sure they are hoping the same for their daughter, but it just isn't going to happen. She doesn't have the same intellectual ability as her brother, which is why she misses the high-order questions on tests. I have a lot of students in my regular classes that are failing. I have limited time. If I have to choose which students to give extra time to, it will be those that are failing, not those that want an A instead of a B. And unfortunately, I cannot give this girl all the attention she (or her mother) wants AND give the other students the attention they NEED. Even if I did have extra time, I don't know what I could possible do for her. I can (and do) answer her questions as she reviews old tests. She understands where she went wrong after explanations, but she couldn't come up with the solutions on her own. So... What COULD I do in this situation? and... What SHOULD I do? Is it OK to totally accept a student's low A/high B grade so you can focus on students with 50s and 60s?