I teach a Life skills class and I have been at this school for 3 years and I have a student that is MR, but in our classroom he is high functioning, and works at a 3rd -4th grade level. My student is 21 and will be graduating this year. He is kind of a a behavior problem in that he has a temper and has been sent away a few times, he broke a teachers arm and tried to choke another student. These are not common events, but he does have to be restrained a few times a year . HE has come a long way in 3 years he went from being restrained weekly and blowing up to only being restrained 4 times last year and so far we have beat our record and he has made it longer into the year EVER with out being restrained. I love challenging kids like this and realized he is smart and watching how other people reacted to him was why he acted out. He is one of those students that had a reputation and it followed him and no one gave him a chance, being new one of the first things I told all the teachers around me was that I did not want to know what they wanted to tell me about the students until I had a chance to meet them. I did not want to have preconcieved ideas. Anyway, he is a good kid most of the time, loves to learn and really tries hard in all he does, he wants to be an adult and I have found that telling him he can walk the stage this spring graduation has helped diffuse some situations and I got him a job once a week at a local pizza place which has also helped in reinforcing good behaviors. The one problem I have always had with him is that he requires a lot of my time, not my time teaching him,it is him wanting attention. If I reward another student with a good job while I am working one on one, he goes what about me, even though he is at another table working on something else, or he MUST talk to me when I am talking to other people, OR he wants my approval on everything. To some extent I warn him once to finish before asking me stuff and ignoring some of the behaviors, but this year the Life skills dept decided to start team teaching and most of us are in the room at the same time, or in small groups. We have stressed to all the students that although they have had JUST us for all their years here, they are now ALL of our students, so if one teacher is not around they should ask any one of us. It helps that we got a new teacher, so there were only 2 familiar faces. Most of the kids had a hard time at first but have now adapted to it, but not this one boy. I have stated several times that he is dependant on me for everything and that he needed to separate from me as much as possible so he can learn to take direction from others so that when he is in the work place he can adapt to multiple managers etc. Well he is struggling with this. If I am in my classroom working one on one with a student and his in big group in another room, he does not ask, he just gets up and bolts to my room if another student touches him or if he has a question and I have to take him back and send him to another teacher. I have ignored his requests for help in group time and the other teachers and aids have jumped up and run to him to help him in hopes that this will break his dependancy. But today might just have been the day I finally realized HOW dependant he is on me. Our rooms connect by doorways and we were wasting the last 10 minutes of class by looking at library books and I was on the other side of the room talking with a teacher when he came over and grabbed a chair and sat down at the table by me, I knew he wanted to sit by me he always does. BUT he is also nosy and likes to listen in on our converstations and act like he knows what we talking about. We were discussing grades so we stopped talking and I took the last few minutes to go input those grades. Now mind you I am on the other side of the classroom from my door. and once in my classroom my desk is out of sight unless you stand in the doorway. I have not been at my desk more than 2 minutes when I look up and see that he got up himself walked across the classroom and grabbed a chair and put it by the door way so he could see me and probably try to talk to me. That's when it hit! He is following me. He is agitated when I am out of the room most times also. I do not feel he is in love with me, but I do not know what it is. He is on a BIP for his behaviors and I am really the only one who can difuse him and I am working very hard to not have to restrain him this year or have to have another ARD for a NEW BIP or anything because he is graduating (SOmething he should have done 2 years ago,but that is just my own oppinion) I have told every one do not do anything that might have to cause a restraint, I have one teacher who once he gets mad takes a bad tone with him which pisses him off. I am still following the BIP, he has a behavior chart which he keeps up himself and then we go over each day before he leaves to make sure I agree with his points. I have been able to add rewards to his chart to help his social skills, he does not talk to his peers even if they talk to him, and he kind of scares them, he wants to talk to me or another adult. I have been working very hard to get him more social and I have seen a difference in him from 3 years ago, but I am not sure if he gets it. He cannot tell if I am annoyed by my tones and I just do not know what to do to help break this detachment. Like I said I am biding my time to graduate him but I just don't know how much longer it will be before he bolts to my room because a student moved his paper and in the process hurts someone or get frustrated because I am not there. WOW! This is long, if you are still with me I would love to hear your feedback.