OK, here's the scenario... a parent in my class told me she was disappointed in me letting her daughter off the hook when she was crying hard about not wanting to sing in our Art Show performance. The mom is concerned that her daughter is getting away with not performing in school (in general) by being very stubborn and volatile. Example... We wrote detective stories as a culminating activity to a long Mystery Unit. This girl (call her Malia) struggled for a long time, finally telling me she could not finish her Planning Sheet because she writes things as she thinks of them. She'd tried for so long, I gave her a waiver on the Planning Sheet (didn't give anyone else this waiver) and let her just start writing. Next, she wrote several pages but couldn't finish the story. She was very persuasive that she could not finish the story. Most of the class was done with theirs and I was eager to finish this unit, so I gave her an alternate way to demonstrate her knowledge of a Mystery. She wrote a paragraph about the required elements, defining what each were (crime, suspects, clues, means of solving the mystery, detective, etc). She did this easily since she gets it, but got stuck in the writing. Her mom is worried that I just let her off the hook (by giving her a way out) when she struggles. I agree, in hindsight, that I've worried about breaking Malia, sending her over the edge - she seems unbalanced and emotionally rigid. But now I guess I've taken away opportunities for her to break out of her rigidity. Anyone have any advice? Reactions?