So, this is a long one. Sorry in advance. I am in my 5th year of teaching overall, and my 3rd at my current school. My district is very competitive when it comes to hiring (i.e. you don't even get in the door for an interview unless you know someone). When I got hired, I had a long time friend on the staff who recommended me and after a very intensive process and multiple interviews, I got the job. It's a great school with a solid culture. My friend moved away after my first year, and doesn't work there anymore. This is what I'm struggling with. All anyone sees when they look at me is "Mary's" friend. Truly. "How is Mary doing? Is she liking the new school? How's her husband? How does she like her new house?" Over and over. If they don't want a Mary update, they don't wan't anything to do with me. It sounds petty, but literally I have not made one true friend at this school in almost 3 years. I have repeatedly told myself to be patient, give it more time, I thought I'd eventually find my niche and my people. It just hasn't happened and I'm bordering on depression over it at this point. I know that I'm capable of having friends. I have many in my personal life, and leaving my last school was terribly hard because of all the close friendships I had made, and I was only there for two years! Anyway, my question...At the end of every year, in district transfers happen for a variety of reasons. My school is currently transitioning out all of our ELL students, meaning our overall numbers are dropping and teachers are being moved to other schools within the district. My principal really likes me and would not transfer me. However, I was considering requesting a transfer because I know at least one classroom teacher from my school is gone after this year and I kind of feel like it might as well be me. This could also save my P from having to make a very difficult decision. My only real hesitation is that I love working for my P. I also don't really want to admit the reason I'm currently so bothered (it's kind of embarrassing to talk about, which is why I'm laying it all out here.) Am I being too sensitive and unreasonable? Should I just suck it up and not worry about having friends where I work? Or do I need to recognize that it's been 3 years, and maybe this just isn't the best fit for me? Thank you for reading. Happy Thanksgiving everyone.