I have a retention meeting on Friday. It's not my first, but it's making me nervous. I really want some help mentally preparing myself for the meeting with mom. The meeting for this child was actually held last week, but mom did not show up (despite 5 phone/paper/mail reminders). The principal and I decided to retain him for many reasons. After the paperwork was sent to his house, his mom called the school on Monday to reschedule! The AP rescheduled, not realizing that the meeting was already held. The principal really wants the mom to come to school, so she is accommodating the request. Our reasons for retention include: He is the worst behaved student in all of kindergarten. He doesn't know all of his letters, he knows 4 letter sounds, and he can barely hold a pencil (poor fine motor skills). He missed +40% of the school year. If he started first grade next year, he would be so far behind, his behavior issues will only get worse. Part of me thinks that mom is going to argue that he should be in special ed. She will get an additional $160 per month of welfare money if he qualifies (who made up that rule?). However, she has never fulfilled her part of the bargain in his behavior contract, so I feel that can't be considered at this time because we haven't exhausted all options yet. I want to be prepared and professional when she walks in the door. How do I tell her in a professional manner that he must be retained? Also, he should not be allowed to attend the first week of school next year without his mother present (I'm afraid he will have one of his violent reactions, scaring the younger children and the other parents). What can I do to make myself heard by this mother? How can I require her to stay with her son at school when I know she is poor and should be working? UGH! I am not looking forward to this meeting!