Warning, this is a vent... I'm trying with all my heart to understand that my DH tries to compesate for the lack of time he is allowed to spend with 9-year-old-son by spoiling him as much he can when he visit us. The problem is that I can't stand to sit there and watch my DH be a servant for my stepson who is demanding and demanding and DH can't say no to him. I try to stay out of it as much as I can but I can't stand it. I'm the one who ends up setting limits and then stepson hates me. This morning for example, DH was happily making pancakes (stepson's favorites) for breakfast but stepson didn't want to eat them because he had them yesterday at his mom's house. So, DH was nervously looking for something in the fridge to try to feed him after all the pancakes were done. I firmly told stepson that that's what we got and that was what he was going to eat. I asked him if at his mom he ever repeated a meal the next day, he said yes but not pancakes. It's getting to the poing that I dread the time when he comes over and I'm seriously believing that the increase of my headaches have to do with the stress about this situation. I know, I know, I should have known before getting married...but I didn't know it was going to be this bad. I'm starting to think that just the way I was able to raise my daughter as a single mom for over 7 years, my DH has the right to do parenting his way but I just can't be around!! I seriously don't think my marriage will last longer as I foresee my stepson turning into a teen and things getting much worse!!!!