Spouses....

Discussion in 'Elementary Education' started by brandi0718, Jul 27, 2008.

  1. brandi0718

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    My husband always fusses when I buy stuff for my classroom....he wants to know why I need the pillows or why I need the crayons and notebooks.......does anyone else have this problem???
     
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  3. Lysander

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    I'm fortunate that my partner is also a teacher, but I understand the dilemma. Is it possible that you could set a yearly budget, explaining that you need things the school simply does not supply? If he knows that you are sticking to what you budgeted (I wince even writing that, since I KNOW how hard that is!), perhaps he will understand. You could also invite him to spend a day with you in your classroom (with permission of your principal, of course). He could then see how important the things you buy are to really helping the students. I challenge him to resist a class of first graders looking adoringly at you and giving him the random hugs that first graders are famous for.
     
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    Hahaha my husband does the same thing so I don't show him... Sneaky-- I keep it in my car so he doesn't get upset that the school district doesn't give us more money for classroom set up stuff.
     
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    The idea of him visiting the class is a good idea...I don't think he would stay long lol.....
     
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    my boyfriend fusses and he is also a teacher. I used to buy A LOT of stuff when I taught elementary but I haven't bought much for middle school. Haha...I have also gotten into the habit of hiding stuff that I purchased.
     
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    The worst dh was, was when I purchased my own overhead and when I purchased a refridgerator. But he saw my room and understood that sped. gets sloppy seconds if they get any at all. Besides, he claimed it as a deduction. :)
     
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    My boyfriend makes comments and tells me sometimes that he'll want to keep track of my purchases when we get married. lol
     
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    Before I got married I never worried about what I spent for my classroom, of course I didn't have a mortgage or a lot of the other things that go along with being married. Now that I'm married I always tell my husband what I need and what I am going to buy. He knows I don't get very much money from the school district, so he understands. He's really great about it. In return I try to spread my purchases out over the summer for the upcoming school year that way I don't spend tons of money in August. I think the only thing you can do is be truthful about what you need for school and sit down and explain why you need those things to your boyfriend/husband. Eventually, he'll be on your side!
     
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    My dh is better about it now than he was a few years ago. But then again, a few years ago I was spending way more money.
     
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    mine is the same...and he still hasn't changed...each year I spend less and now he knows that I have to....I just leave it in the car and when he asks I tell him but I don't share with him :)
     
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    yeah...i think my problem is that i am a 2nd year teacher...i started off in a room with NOTHING but desks...and i am trying to build up my supplies...maybe it will get better as the yrs go by.
     
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    muah ha ha ha what dh doesn't know......:p
     
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    I was in Wal-Mart yesterday walking by the Back-to-School sales of school supplies. I am so proud of myself that I didn't buy anything! Of course, this is because I bought so much the previous years, I have a surplus, but hey!
     
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    I have kidded about hiding things from my hubby but really he understands that I put my heart and soul into teaching and having "things" that I want makes me happier and let's face it we are in our classrooms for a major part of waking hours.
     
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    We have summer school right now so there isn't a week that goes by where I don't need to buy something new. My supply cabinet has a lot of things in it that I reuse but there are things that get used up that need to be replaced now and then. My hubby can't understand why I need to buy so much stuff. Yesterday, I bought some M&Ms for the class and he said, "Why didn't you buy me any"? :lol:
     

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