My mom and I have always gotten along. We were like the Gilmore Girls when I was younger. I never had that hate your mom phase. We rarely bickered or argued. I was also super-responsible and always protected my mom and would never yell at her or say anything bad to her unless I was REALLY angry. And even then, I still treated her with respect. My brother and sister are entirely the opposite. My brother has a pretty explosive personality. If something doesn't go his way, he blows up and makes threats, like that he will go out and party and get drunk on Christmas Eve and ruin Christmas or he'll run away, etc. etc. (He is 23 now and might not make the exact same threats but its still a similar attitude). My sister gets cold instead of explosive. She would go a whole year not talking to someone just to be spiteful. I have seen her do this with other family members, including my dad, and some of her own friends. She doesn't keep friends as long as many people do. She is very cynical and sarcastic. She can guilt trip my mom like its nothing. She makes her cry regularly because she hurts her feelings. She calls her a witch with b, a ho-bag, etc. Sometimes its with dry humor, but I still find it really offensive and disrespectful. (and I am no prude, I am definitely also sarcastic and have a good sense of humor, i just don't find this funny). She also expects to get whatever she asks for. The problem is, sometimes I almost feel punished for their sensitivity. Mom panders to their behavior because she knows if she doesn't they might not talk to her/get explosive. I don't get that attention because she knows she can rely on my to always be there. They have both ruined plans that I had for my mom and I to spend time together because she had to kiss up to them so they wouldn't get angry. Also, I know they both complain about each other and me to my mom. I, on the other hand, don't get my mom into the middle of my battles with my brother and sister. Tonight, for example, when I mentioned I hadn't talked to my sister in awhile, my mom told me I needed to call her and work things out. I didn't even know my sister and I were fighting! But she complained to my mom about something, mom only gets the one side, and I look like the bad guy, although really I was the one trying not to get my mom in the middle of it. (And for the record, if she is mad about what I think, if I had told my mom the truth it would have made my sister look bad, but it would have hurt my mom's feelings, and I would rather not do that.) Sorry this is so long but i needed to vent. Does anyone else have this issues with siblings? Is it an older child thing? A co-worker and I were discussing how we are both the oldest, and we are so much more responsible and protective of our moms.