Hi all...once again I have a weird situation and I'm hoping for help from y'all I teach 4th grade in a suburban/rural school. There is a girl in one of my three classes whose behavior has me perplexed. On the first day of school, Grandmother had to physically pull her into the class to meet her teacher. (She has gone to school in our district her whole life so it wasn't an entirely new situation.) Anyway...Grandmother dropped her off and left with only these words..."She's having trouble lately...she wants to be a boy." Now as I finish the story, keep in mind I didn't know about the grandmother's comment until the 3rd day of school! Anyway...she looks completely like a boy. For the first 3 days, I thought she WAS a boy with a goofy name...it happens, right?? Anyway...I was totally shocked when I found out by talking with her homeroom teacher! I know, I know...it shouldn't have taken me 3 days to find out but it was a crazy start. Here's the problem...she has a very dark, quiet personality. She hangs around with the boys and chooses to do things with them. She LOOKS like a boy...short hair styled like a boy, she wears boy's jewelry and boy's clothes. When we played a class game and I separated the class into teams of boys and girls, she actually began crying, saying she didn't want to play. When I talked to her about it, she said she didn't like it when the class was divided into boys and girls. I've never had a student like this, but frankly, I think if she wants to "be" a boy, that's between her and her parents. However...everytime she is mistaken for a boy, she gets her feelings hurt!! I'm totally dumbfounded. If she wants to be a boy, I would think she would like being mistaken for a boy. I'm not sure what my question is for you...maybe just support. I know this is a difficult age for some kids so I want to do my best for her. Because she is not in my homeroom class, my interaction with her is limited, but I feel like I should do something to help or make her feel more comfortable. I guess I shouldn't split the class boys vs. girls, huh? Sorry this is so long...difficult to explain, as well as understand!Thoughts? Opinions? Ideas? Advice? Thanks!