I posted this in preschool because I would really like age-specific responses for the little guys! This year, our school of 95 children has at least 5 families with two moms. In all of the cases, there's a feminine-looking mom and a masculine-looking mom. I am hoping for your input about what to say when other children ask questions. Example 1: Danny says, "My mom's name is Diedre and my dad's name is Laurie." Tommy says, "Laurie? That's a GIRL'S NAME." Danny says, "NO IT'S NOT. SHE'S MY DAD." (note correct pronoun.) I just said yes, Laurie is a girl's name and left it at that. Example 2: Rob says, "I have one mom, Barbie, and two dads, Bubba and Kelly." Susie says, "Kelly not your dad!" Example 3: Mary's Momma Cathy drops her off at school. Jason says, "Oh there's Mary and her dad." I say, "That's Mary's momma." Jason says, "No it's not--that's her dad!!" I try to ignore what I can and let it slide right by....these kids'll forget about it by tomorrow for the most part! But what do I say when Jason says Momma Cathy is Mary's dad right in front of her? What do I say to Danny when he gets upset because Tommy corrected him? I personally don't care how your family is structured, but I know a lot of you may be bothered for religious or personal reasons. I just want suggestions on how to discuss this issue as it comes up during the day, not as part of a curriculum on families. P.S. I really can't ask the moms because only one of the kids is mine, and I know she does NOT want to discuss it. She's a bit high-strung. To put it nicely.