Requesting new doctor within the same practice?

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  1. Pisces_Fish

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    My primary care doctor referred me to a specialist. My first visit with the specialist was today. He left a really bad taste in my mouth and I'm feeling like I don't want to go back :(

    After explaining my symptoms and answering a few of his questions, he abruptly asked, "Are you sure it's not all in your head?" He hadn't even examined me yet! This was literally within 3 minutes of meeting me. Then he was looking through my family history and asked if the tremors my father sometimes is experiencing is related to alcohol. I said no, he said, "Are you sure?" and made a gesture like he was chugging from an imaginary bottle. The visit felt rushed and I pretty much felt like this guy had "bigger fish to fry."

    So...how do I do this? Do I call the office and ask for a new doctor outright? Should I explain why? Will the other doctor be made to feel uncomfortable because I was passed off onto him? Wondering if anyone has experience with this. :unsure:
     
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  3. bison

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    I've done this numerous times at different types of doctors. Just call the office and tell them you'd like to switch to Dr. So-and-so. It shouldn't be a problem! I very much doubt they will ask you why, but if so and you feel like you want to answer (you do NOT have to), just be honest and let them know you feel like you might be more comfortable with someone else. It's no big deal, don't worry! It happens all the time for various reasons. No one will think twice about it. I know the first time I switched, it was because the initial doctor was just way too busy and hard to get an appointment with. Nothing particularly negative. They didn't ask me the reason, though.
     
  4. a2z

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    I would have no problem asking for a different doctor's name or referral. I would tell your referring practice that you were very unhappy with his bedside manner and the accusations about your father. I would tell them he was very unprofessional and you want a different doctor.

    If you can find a specialist in a different practice, I would do so. If you are able, I would definitely write a letter to the doctor and the office manager explaining you felt his treatment was unprofessional and over the line accusing your father of being a drinker when he wasn't even a patient. I have a family member that has had tremors since very young childhood.

    There is a difference between a gruff bedside manner and being dismissed and having your family accused of being alcoholics. Unless this doctor can perform some surgery that no other can, it isn't worth staying with him. Apparently, he doesn't take your concerns seriously.

    We left a practice because of a dismissive doctor. We eventually found one that was open to thinking outside of the normal box and discovered a very, very rare condition that can mimic symptoms of a common condition. When the common condition was ruled out by the other practice and did the "it's all in your head" line, we hightailed it out of there.
     
  5. LouiseB

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    Yes, call back and ask for some else. I have done this at a doctor's office and a also a dentist
     
  6. swansong1

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    Demand another Dr and feel free to explain why.

    When my son was about 8, we visited a neurologist who had the absolutely worst bedside manner of any Dr I have ever seen. (I was not very nice when I spoke to him because of his comments). When we went back to the pediatrician I told her to never send another child to this dr.
     
  7. Blue

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    I have done it several times. I imagine that the doctor is so busy he won't even notice.
     
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    It happens all the time. Not every doctor is the right fit for every patient. Just call your regular doctor, tell him that you were not happy with the specialist, and ask that he refer you to a new one.

    I had to do this recently. My doctor was very happy to receive feedback about the first specialist. He referred me to a different specialist who was much better for me.
     
  9. giraffe326

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    I would call your primary care physician and explain the situation. See who he recommends this time. Plus he needs to know so he won't send other patients there as well.
     
  10. Pisces_Fish

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    My primary physician referred me to a practice, not a specific dr, so I will choose another dr and see how it goes.

    I'll call on Monday and request a new doctor. I don't feel bad for ditching him, I felt bad for making the other dr feel awkward when my files were transferred...but not anymore, thanks for the tips!
     
  11. bros

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    They won't have to do much to transfer files within the practice. It's probably as simple as relabeling you in their computers and putting your folder in a different area of a filing cabinet.

    I've also experienced people in the medical profession with bad bedside manner, such as the pediatrician who screamed at me for at least 3-5 minutes because I didn't take my nebulizer the second I thought I was starting to get bronchitis. He was screaming about how he worked at so-and-so as the head of the pediatric pulmonary unit at some prestigious NY hospital and if I had been admitted there and the record said I didn't take nebulizer meds at home when I had a nebulizer available he would have me transferred to another hospital because patients should be more responsible (I was like 18 or 19 at the time? My pediatrician took me until I was 21 because they covered patients up to then, then I was referred to an excellent practice they work closely with).

    I prefer to only take my nebulizer medication when I have to (i.e. told by a doctor, or I feel like I have to, such as if I walk a long distance or if I walk a short distance through something that induces allergies), but I won't just take it the second I feel something coming on in my chest, because I wouldn't want to interfere the the doctor's diagnosis, and it's not like a nebulizer would help with Post Nasal Drip (and i've become very good at determining when PND turns into bronchitis). I also prefer only to take my nebulizer meds when necessary because they affect my heart.

    Anyway, six months later when I went back to my pediatrician for some random testing, the doctor was no longer there (and when I had went for the visit six months prior, he had just joined the practice a week or so before)
     
  12. kpa1b2

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    My doctor will refer me to a specialist, but it's my decision if I go to that doctor or if I choose another doctor. My insurance doesn't care and she hasn't ever asked me why I didn't go to the person she recommended.
     
  13. Pisces_Fish

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    Just left a pretty scathing review on Angie's List, but I made it clear this was only my first impression. I have never reviewed anything on AL before, that's how bad the visit was! I felt a little better after I saw two other people had also given poor reviews. That's what I get for not doing my research first! Lesson learned! ;)
     
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    Definitely call and explain that the doctor to whom you were referred was unprofessional. Ask for a referral for someone else. Your primary care doctor should know about this so he doesn't recommend the quack to anyone else.:2cents:
     
  15. TeacherGroupie

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    In fact, one of the ADVANTAGES of a multiple-doctor practice, from the patient's point of view, is that it's straightforward to switch from one doc to another if it's simply the case that the patient and the doc don't fit well together. Not-fitting-well is a perfectly understood reason to switch. My neck of the woods is full of practices that are spread out over multiple sites, and it's not at all unheard of to drive across town to visit another site's OB-GYN instead of the one at the site that delivers one's primary care.
     

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