I was out with some friends last night and the subject of singlehood came up. Basically one guy (who is married) said "Boy, I'd hate being single. It must really suck. What do you guys think?" refering to the three of us at the table who are unattached. One girl kind of started in on a what-do-I-do vein. She is 28, owns her own house, works full time, is training for a marathon, and feels she has very little in common with her male peers. She is also VERY interested in politics and finances as those are integral to her job. The guy who opened the discussion told her that guys are probably intimidated by her strength and independence even though she is a wonderful and likable person. She brought up a not-so-hypothetical of an older man (mid-40's) who seemed to have similar interests as her, she kind of liked him, he seemed to really like her, etc. And so it went. I just listened to the whole thing and kept my mouth shut for the most part. But it got me thinking. Are guys truly intimidated by a woman who is independant, not to the point of callousness but is able to take care of and provide for herself? How does such a woman try to overcome their fears that they have nothing to offer or feel she is completely out of their league? I must admit I started thinking of my own situation, and while I don't own property and care very little for national finances and politics, I have often thought of myself as just such an independent woman. It is a new way of looking at things, but I have no idea what the answer to the puzzle might be. Men, feel free to chime in. Your POV and opinions are of great value here.