How much of your social life (would you ballpark) consists of stuff you'd just as soon not do, in an effort to meet some other expectation of you. e.g. I was invited to a bar with a bunch of high school friends to see a band play--I have no real inclination to go... its basically one of those things that I just go because "the guys" expect me to. It's not going to be "fun". There aren't going to be loads of hot chicks, or crazy stuff happening. Its going to be the same old (mellow) thing, where we have a few drinks and just hang. Which is fine. But it has me thinking, as I get older... and as money continues to be tight... about just how much of my social life is stuff I just do, and just as soon NOT. I feel like I blow off a lot more things now. But I do feel guilty in myself, because I may be being selfish sometimes. And you don't want to blow off every thing consistently, because you'll get cut out of the loop when you do want to do something. And you certainly don't want to be that guy (or gal), who seems to jettison his/her friends for something better and goes MIA (e.g. guy gets girlfriend, you never see him again). My question is: Ballpark (percentage-wise), the things you do socially (i.e. "going out" with friends, going out with your SO's dorky friends, kids parties, etc.) that, all things being equal, pale to just hanging at home. For me, it feels like at least 50%.