Last week we had parent teacher conferences and finally I was able to speak to both parents of the disruptive child I wrote about in another thread. The school counselor was present and I laid it our to them. I told them about his disrespectful attitude towards me and a few other students, I showed them his work and let them know he is hovering at a borderline failing grade in my class, and I shared with them my concerns about the inappropriate touching and his sexually suggestive comments. The response I got from them, especially dad was flabbergasting. He told me in no uncertain terms that teachers are just failures in "real life" and since "we can't do, we teach ". He then stated that my class, along with his son's art class are the most useless of all, and that he doesn't care what grade his son gets in any non STEMS related class. At this point I told him, "your son is currently on track to fail a 'useless class'". His response to me was that he himself failed "Engrish" rather frequently and now he gets "to sign documents with a stamp, consequently proving won all those teachers who said cursive is a useful skill". He then continued by asking me how well did a proficiency in language arts do me and stated that I will be making minimum payments on a Hyundai for the next 10 years. At this point I try to appeal to mom since dad seemed to be acting rather immature. I try to tell mom that no matter what career path their son decides to follow, communication, writing and reading skills will form the bedrock of her son's scholastic development, not to mention top schools will not look to kindly on a student with a series of F's on a transcript regardless of what classes they are in, and furthermore if her son does not adjust his disrespectful attitude he will be in for a lifetime of battles with professors, supervisors, and possibly even the criminal justice system. I also mentioned to mom that I myself started in the engineering college when I went to university and that I know first hand proficiency in mathematics and science does not excuse a student to do poorly in English class. Here dad jumped in with "so what happened? Did you realize it would require you to take the sausage out of your mouth and study at least a couple times a week, so you decided on an Mrs. degree rather than engineering. And do you go by Miss. J***, does that mean you failed to make use of said Mrs. degree so had to fall back on teaching". Of course both the counselor I was shocked and horrified by his statement (he didn't actually use the word sausage FYI if you know what I mean). This is when the counselor stood up and stated she was paging the campus security officer to sit in for the rest of the session. I would have thought that mom would have been put off by her husband's vulgar and sexist statement but she was in stitches laughing as if she were at a comedy act. She then makes a vague statement to dad about how maybe if I had a tighter mid section and did a "co-op work study at a couple of the frat houses" I would have "found a job with my Mrs. Degree". Then they started taking and giggling to one another in Spanish. When the campus security officer arrived dad greeted him as Paul Blart and asked him if they dropped the pushup requirement for the "kindergarten cop police academy". The counselor tried to redirect the conversation by saying that the focus of this meeting is the child's academic progress and that we are wasting time but that just caused dad to insult the counselor with a series of psychiatrist stereotypes. The campus security officer then told both those chuckle heads that if they were not going to discuss the child's academic progress they should just leave. This was when mom just bluntly reiterated dad's point that she doesn't care if her son fails mine or any English class. Her reasoning was that since she is a Latina and dad is a Hong Konger, and that her son is the son of first generation ESL parents, PC obsessed academia WILL excuse his poor grades in English. That coupled with the fact that he excels in math and science (apparently he is on track to take high school chemistry and algebra II next year) he is going to have Hispanic scholarship programs fighting over him. Dad then chimed in with "the Hong Konger in him will blow all those other sp*cs and bea*ers out of the water, it won't matter if he can't write pros". After laughing at dad's extremely racist remark mom proceeded to tell me to be careful because one day my husband may very well be begging her husband or her son for a job. She then corrected her self by adding that if I ever hope to have a husband I better "put the fork down". And finally she topped her self by exposing her midriff to show off her abs and telling my self, the counselor and the security officer that she had a kid and asked what or excuses were. So basically I think this kid is a lost cause for me. I am giving up on him and realizing that you can't force some one to take their own education seriously. I dont know if this is a generational thing. Dad looked to be in is late 20's early thirties and mom looked to be in her mid to late 20's. The one thing that really irks me though is that I can't help but believe that mom's statements are not without merit. I really do fear that because of his unique ethnic heritage coupled with his success in stems subjects his family will be able to successfully work the system which was put in place to help the truly underrepresented, there by allowing him to act the way he acts with impunity. It's situations like this that make me question if teaching is truly worth the sacrafices.