please keep us in your prayers

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  1. TeacherGroupie

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    Among the least enviable tasks of parenthood is having to tell one's child that there are some hurts for which not even a mother's kiss suffices.

    If it seems appropriate, Alice, please tell Kira (and, of course, Brian and Julia) that this feels bad because, from our human perspective, it IS bad - and that she's got several hundred friends she doesn't know who care about how much it hurts and who are holding your family and her grandmama in the Light.
     
  2. Jinkies

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    I am so sorry Alice. You and your family will be in my prayers.
     
  3. Aliceacc

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    Thanks again guys.

    I was just talking to Peter... he was up part of the night putting a eulogy together. I realized that it really was a blessing that she died when she did, because it was only a matter of hours before we realized something was wrong.

    We don't normally call our parents every day. And even if we did, and we got the answering machine, we wouldn't have assumed there was a problem. Mom was 86, but her health was always good. It could easily have been serveral days, instead of several hours, before we realized there was a problem.

    As to today: well, Julia has a few hours of homework that simply has to get done today. (You guys know my opinon of homework over Christmas, aside from things like this. Her entire week off is now today and tomorrow, and today will be spent on English homework. She has a couple of chapters to read, and some accompanying worksheets. Thanks, Mrs. M, and a Merry Christmas to you too.)

    Then I have to hit the stores and make sure the girls have something decent to wear to the wake and funeral. Julia wore a red plaid shirt for Christmas Eve, and Kira wore red with white fur-- she looked like an adorable Christmas elf. But neither is appropriate, so I'll be at the store in a few hours. (Brian is easy; he has black pants and some button down shirts, and can borrow ties from Peter.)

    The presents are in the bedrooms, out from under the tree. Peter's brother and family will drive down tomorrow; he's picking up his sister at JFK tomorrow morning.

    It certainly isn't the Christmas vacation we had planned. But we'll get through.

    Thanks once again for all the prayers guys.
     
  4. cutNglue

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    Alice, I would have been perfectly fine with a Christmas elf at this time of year. Sometimes we need a smile to help us remember just how precious time is. I'm sure, however, you found something suitable even in the midst of busy times.

    Having a chance to talk with those we love close to the time they pass IS a blessing. It's closure that we all need to feel peace with knowing that our loved ones were loved even in their final hours.


    Edit to add: You are going at this much more rationally than I because knowing how I feel about homework too, I would have chunked it at this point.
     
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    Just saw this... so sorry Alice. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
     
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    I am so impressed with how optimistically you look at things. I truly wish I was more like this. You really seem like a rock for your family, someone one could always go to in a crisis.
     
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    Alice, I just saw this today. You are all in my thoughts.
     
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    Oh Alice, I'm so sorry. Words can't help with your sorrow, know that she will always be looking down on you and your family.
     
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    Alice, I'm so sorry, your family is in my thoughts.
     
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    Alice, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Peter, you, the kids, and your families are in my thoughts and prayers.
     
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    so sorry alice. prayers for you and your family at this most difficult time.
     
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    So sorry Alice and family! How very tragic for your husband. Prayers for your healing.
     
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    So sorry. I will pray for you.
     
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    I am so sorry for your loss, Alice. You, Peter and the kids are in my prayers.
     
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    Oh no! Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending hugs, and strength during this difficult time!
     
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    Alice,

    I'll be praying for you and your family!
     
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    I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Alice. You and your family are in my prayers.
     
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    Alice, I am so sorry to hear about this awful news. What a blessing that Peter realized that there could be (was) a problem. My immediate thought was the kids; I know how devastating it was for me to lose my grandmother at an early age. I am praying for you and your family. May God give you the strength that is needed to get through this challenging time.
     
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    I'm sorry for your loss
     
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    You and your family are in my prayers ansd thoughts.
     
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    You're family is definitely in my prayers. So sorry for your loss. I admire how strong you seem to be for your family through this difficult time.
     
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    Oh, Alice. I am so sorry. We are here if you need us.
     
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    How horrible. :( I'm so sorry to hear this news.

    And I would skip the homework and send a note. She needs to spend this time with family.
     
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    Alice... coming to the story a little late...sorry.

    My deepest sympathies to you, your husband, and your family. So sorry to hear the news.

    Prayers to all of you. :(
     
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    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I will begin to pray for you and your entire family. May God bless and keep you, my friend, and hold you close with His comfort.
     
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    Alice, I am so sorry to see this. You and your family are definitely in my prayers. :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
     
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    Oh, Alice, this is horrible! I am so sorry for your families loss.
     
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    I am so sorry to hear this Alice. You and you family are in my prayers.
     
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    My condolences.

    Death is a difficult thing to process as it wells up the rarely-felt emotion of grief. For a child, losing a grandparent, or any loved one, sucks. I was 9 when my great-grandfather died. I do not remember much of his wake, except that it took place in the same funeral home as my grandfather's wake 6 years later. Keeping busy is the key to alleviate the pain for a while. Share memories of her, encourage the whole family to do so. Talk about the stories of times with her that you remember. Laughter and tears are the best things to have during a time of grief. Even though she has left this life, she shall stay alive in your hearts and minds and she is watching down on your family now.

    I typed quite a stream of consciousness post there...

    Again, my condolences on your loss.
     
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    Well said, bros.

    I just saw this and am so sorry for your and your family.
     
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    So sorry, Alice!
     
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    How are things going?
     
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    Thinking of you and your family, Alice!
     
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    I, too, just found your post Alice. I'm so sorry for your loss.
    Your family is in my prayers.
     
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    Everyone got in yesterday; Peter's brother and family from upstate, his sister from California-- sick as a dog, with absolutely no voice.

    The wake is today and tomorrow, the funeral Friday.
     
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    How miserable for his sister. It's hard enough when we are perfectly healthy. One thing about funerals though, even if it is not for the reason we would like, they do bring families together--especially those we might not have seen in a long time.
     
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    I don't want to hijack other threads, so I figured I would give an update here.

    Yesterday was day 1 of the wake. As expected, the first and last 5 minutes are rough, when what we're doing really sinks in. But for the hours in between, it's lots of reminiscing with family and friends.

    My aunt, uncle, cousin and his wife made the 2 hour drive from Brooklyn to be there for Peter. My sister, who has walking pneumonia and missed Christmas Eve, was there too. And a number of neighbors and friends drove the 45 minutes to an hour to be there for us.

    A number of the Brothers from school stopped by, including my former principal. He's currently a missionary in India, and is home for a few weeks. It was so very kind of him to take time to be there.


    I have to run to the supermarket in a minute to get stuff for the luncheon after tomorrow's burial. That's the part that will be really tough.
     
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    Thanks for the update. I have been praying for all of you.
     
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    Praying for your family and you are right the burial is the worse, so final!
     
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    Hugs and prayers, Alice.
     

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