Do you feel like, because you spend so much time with children, that you have zero tolerance for adults who behave as children? I have a friend, who I guess judging by her behavior isn't really a friend at all, who is 40 going on 13. She launched an attack on me several months ago and has been freezing me out ever since when it comes to social situations that she arranges, but is syrupy sweet to me in the presence of mutual friends. A few weeks ago, I invited her and a mutual friend to lunch. Both ignored my email for a week, then when I followed up, both told me they had other plans, then posted on FB pictures of the two of them at our regular brunch place along with statements the rest of the afternoon about what they were doing that day. Really? It's the equivalent of throwing a party in middle school, not inviting a classmate and letting it "slip" that the party is going on without him or her. It's so contrived. I let it go because I think to respond would only fuel her nastiness toward me, but I can't get over the manipulation of it all. Personally, I don't care if I'm included in things, but don't lie to me about it and then brag that you lied! Just tell me you had plans together for that day. If it wasn't for the network of people we have in common, I'd blow her off altogether. I keep trying to make peace, but I can't deal with the tween-like behavior. It's just too easy for me to see through. When kids come to you with social problems, do you ever want to just tell them it will never end? There will always be people who choose to stay stuck playing games?