My family hasn't been a vacation for years yet my kids aren't missing out on anything. We do go camping, but we don't take expensive trips to Disney or other resorts. Our families happiness isn't measured in # of vacations we take or how often we go out to eat. My children don't have a sense of entitlement, they know the value of hard work and earning what you have. I think it is lacking empathy when one doesn't show their children how working hard is the tradeoff one makes for providing for ones family. It ISN'T about money, money, money...........it is about taking care of your family and personal responsibility. I'd much rather have my kids be impressed by how hard their parents work then by how many times they are taken to Chuckie Cheese, etc. If there is something I want, my hubby and I work for it. I don't feel entitled to things just because I have a job. Grammy, my friend, I think you have misread what many of us are saying on here. No one said children should suffer...............but many of us did say, parents need to get off their arse and work for the "things" they want. If there is money for those extras, then there is money for the necessities. It is called priorities. Yes, daycare can be expensive. If someone is having problems with affording it, then get creative and instead of whining about it............come up with a solution. It is amazing what people can do when they put their minds to it.