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  1. love2teach

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    What are your thoughts about:

    Parents being full time employees (teacher, aide, food service etc...) in the same building as their child(ren)?

    Parents subbing in the same building as their child(ren)?
     
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  3. TemperanceFaith

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    I have done it in my children's school. It has its positives and negatives. I have also coached my daughter and her friends and my older son.

    I would do it again if need be, but prefer not to because I think my own children respond better to other teachers/coaches. It brings a different aspect to their experience. I think they give more in some ways.
     
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    Our secretary is the mother of one my girls. It's great, because she really looks out for our room.
     
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    I think this is fine. It is easier for the parents, for sure. However, it's important for them to be able to wear two "hats." The parent hat, and the staff/faculty member hat. I have a faculty child in my class this year, and she was great about not coming to me early, or even asking about the class lists until they were officially mailed out. We eat lunch together a lot as she is also a friend, and rarely do we let the conversation go to the class unless it's broad and general. I have never heard her talk about our students in any kind of way, and is a great support!

    As long as the parent is able to differentiate between her role at work and her role as a parent, I think any staff member who has children at the school is a benefit to the school. It also "looks good" for faculty and staff to have their children at the school. If they all send their kids elsewhere, people would start to wonder. I think I have had staff/faculty children in my class almost every year! I also have the board president's child in my class this year! I had his sister for two years before as well!
     
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    It's basically unavoidable and generally works out well.

    I had the lab instructor's son one year and she was awesome. All I had to do was send her an email saying I needed a note for such and such and she'd send it down within the hour. Her little boy had a hard time with the other teachers though. They really did pick on him because they thought, he thought he was extra special (who cares?), any, they were extra rough on him in the halls or just about any time he was out of my room unescorted. He handled it better than the mom did, she was livid half the time which made matters worse.
     
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    Our secretary has four children in our school. In one class, I had three employee's children. Our district is so small (k-12 450 students ) that most of the subs, kitchen staff, custodians, etc have children in the building. I don't think it has every created a problem here. When your mom is the only social studies teacher in the high school you know you are going to end up in her class before it is all over with.
     
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    Happens all the time in my district...... I don't see the harm..:)
     
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    2 years ago I subbed in my daughter's school, I was great friends with her teacher, but I rarely would sub for her (only in a desperate emergency) just to keep it simple for both my daughter and I. This year we are again in the same school, but different halls. I love not having to pay for daycare anymore and it's really nice knowing she's right down the hall if anything bad ever happens. I expect her to be respectful and never think she's got a free pass because her mom's down the hall. I also respect her teacher enough to understand that when I'm speaking with her about my daughter she's the teacher and I'm a mom. :)
     
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    I subbed in the same school my kids go to. It was a wonderful networking experience for me and helped me get my job now. I subbed for their classes also. I only did it for my older son's class, because I knew he could handle the situation. My younger son would have tried to take advantage.

    My children are at the same school I teach at. It has been great! My youngest son is in the room right next to mine. I know what is going with them all the time.
     
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    No. lol. That's a short answer but it ended up in disaster for us last year.
     
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    Well........... give us the long answer..........:p:p
     
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    I tech the son of the teacher who teaches next door. Happily, he's a great guy who's realistic about his son and I don't foresee ever having a problem.
     
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    I guess it's alright as long as the parents don't expect any favoritism or other special treatment. I worked w/ a child who's dad was one of the custodians. She was a kindergartener & so well behaved.
     
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    I had the kid and I was TOUGH on the kid. He needed it. I'm willing to bet if he isn't ODD, he is a product of his environment. He was on the floor kicking, screaming, red in the face and aggressive. I was allowed to do what I needed to do. By the end of the year, he highly respected me and did what I asked. He would even flirt. It was night and day.

    The next year he got a really good teacher who was a lot nicer than me. The mom became the secretary. She suddenly saw what her son was doing and assumed that the teacher was at fault. He chronically lies. We told her so. This year, however, he was a saint. He tells the truth. She would peek in the room 50 times a day and report things out of context to the Principal. The P worked with her closely and knew her when she was younger and marched right by her side to make trouble for the teacher. Not only that, but she had nieces and nephews in the building. She wasn't as bad there but everyone felt uncomfortable. She TRIED to take off the parent hat. She wasn't a bad secretary or at all and she was a great mother. She just didn't know how to separate the two jobs.
     

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