I'm looking for some support from those on AtoZ who are also parents. I have 6 1/2 year old daughters. Since they were born, I've been advised by my friends to lower my standards of keeping the house clean. I did. I mean they are waaaaaay lower now. But, the time has come that the girls can and should help keep the place up. I've been torn, though, because when I'm busy my patience dips and I am likely to just grab their stuff up off the floor and put it away. What I should do is call them down to do it themselves. I should do that so I don't get so mad! Here's what I mean: I ask them to keep their laundry in the hampers OR in the drawer. I see their clothes on the floor and don't know if it is a discard from getting dressed or dirty. So I put it in the hamper AND get angry that I have to wash things that might not be dirty because they aren't putting their clothes away. Two or three of these incidents (with other messes, too, not just clothing) and I snap! "Hey!!!! This place is a pig sty!!!!" kind of tantrum. One of my girls asked me, "Why do you care so much about living in a tidy house anyway?" I didn't say anything. I don't want to have to defend such a simple life goal! So my new leaf: the girls do their part to keep the place clean without any complaining or questioning me about it. Fair?