Parents no-showing at parent conferences

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  1. Caesar753

    Caesar753 Multitudinous

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    The procedure for conferences at our school is that the parent/counselor/teacher requests a conference, and all the student's teachers meet with the parent to discuss grades and/or behavior. Generally, conferences last around 20 minutes, with each teacher taking a turn saying how things are going in his/her class.

    The mother of one of my students scheduled a parent/teacher conference for this afternoon. All the teachers were there waiting for the mom to show up; she never did.

    Parents not showing up for the conferences they schedule happens a lot. I'd say that more than half the conferences scheduled for me result in no-shows. I have no idea why parents never seem to show up. I'm sure that sometimes they're running late--but we can't wait around forever, or even for a short time really. Being 10 minutes late for a conference means that it won't happen! We have to get to class or go home for the day!

    Does this happen at your school?
     
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  3. Blue

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    I taught for nine years at a high school in the teen parent program. I never had one parent show up for conferences.
     
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    Usually the parents of my really high performing students show up for conferences. The students who are struggling/failing - their parents never show up, no matter how many times we call or write home. It is really frustrating. But like Cassie said, they always sign up for a conference - they just don't show up!
     
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    What bugs me so much is that we don't do the whole parent conference thing where all the parents are asked to come one evening or whatever. We only do them on a case by case basis when someone requests one. If the parent is going to go out of his or her way to request a conference, it seems bizarre to me that they would skip out on it.
     
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    When I was on third shift, I'd have to talk to teachers either in the morning or they'd have to call me in the evening. I'd end up sleeping through end of the day meetings!
     
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    I used to work as a health educator in the medical field. Guess what...follow up appointments were missed almost 50% of the time until we both called and mailed people to remind them.

    So, as a teacher before a conference, I now send a reminder letter home and call/ leave a message. To me it is worth it not to sit there waiting for a parent who does not show.
     
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    When parents don't show up (rarely), I offer them a 'phone conference'.
     
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    I have had several parents request a conference and then cancel. I think I have only had one not show up for one they requested. As for ones I request, that is common.
     
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    All the time! We have parents that set up meetings with the principal & don't show either. We also have students who never pay school fees & don't get report cards. It is very frustrating when you can't speak with a parent or get them on the same page as you!
     
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    That is totaly annoying! do you reschedule? or give a written summary?
     
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    My last principal had a plan that got every parent to school when you really needed to talk to them. She sent a note telling the parent the child could not return to school until they came with them. It worked every time!! She also told the child. The children always got the note to the parent.
     
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    Last month I had a PARENT request a conference. She didn't show up the first time, called to cancel WHEN the conference was scheduled to begin the second time, and cancelled in advance the third time. When we rescheduled the fourth conference I asked my principal to call her. It worked :) We met last week.
     

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