I couldn't think of a better place to ask. The anonymity makes it much easier. I have a question about parenting preteens. My daughter is 12. She has always been a very low-maintenance child; very affectionate, understanding and accepting of others, wise beyond her years, and highly intelligent. We have a close family relationship at home (I also have a sone who's 10) with lots of open, honest communication. In the last 6 months or so, things have been changing so fast and it's scaring me to death. A year ago, family was the most important thing in her life. Now, her priorities are friends, music, family, in that order. She talks on the phone, goes to her friend's (she has one especially good friend whom she spends most of her time with, and I usually drop her off and pick her up), when she's home, she often goes off into her room. Sometimes she will still come down and talk my ear off about stuff going on at school, etc..., but I am feeling like as each day goes by I know less and less about her life, what she's feeling and thinking. For the most part, I know it's normal development, and I'm not really worried about her getting into any kind of trouble because I stay as involved as I possibly can and we are always open and accepting with our kids (within reason), but I feel like I'm struggling to hang on and maintain our close relationship (although there is no family conflict as in a lot of families with teens). My question is for those of you who have gone through this stage: How did you handle it? How did you find the line between reminding them that they are still a child and not all grown up, and giving them their space? I am so worried about either giving too much rope and missing something major, or not enough and losing even more communication. Sorry this is so long, but it helps to get it out. Any avice from some of you vets???