So has anyone had a hard conference yet? I just had one today. The parents got a letter in their son's report card saying that he could possibly be held back because he's working below grade level. He's already labeled developmentally delayed, so obviously he's not at the level he should be. Plus, he was placed in 1st grade when he should have been held back but wasnt because of age. Anyway, the parents wanted to come in for a conference and ask about the letter. They are very good parents btw. They work with their son and are very involved with his education and in helping him. So we explained to them why he might be held back, and what skills he needed to work on, and yada yada. It seemed to go okay and they seemed to understand. Then the dad asks the question "do you think something else is wrong with him". So then the SPED teacher and I explain that we think he shows some signs of autism. Well the mom just lost it and I felt so bad! I mean I know it's hard for a parent to think of their child as having autism and I know I didnt do anything wrong, but I just felt so sad for her. So she went out into the hall and the aide followed her while the SPED teacher and I stayed in the room with the dad and talked to him about autism and this and that. The the mom, the aide and the principal come back into the room. And Im thinking oh great, Im in trouble with my boss. But I think he was concerned about the mom and wanted to see what we were discussing. Basically we just said that the boy needed to be tested to see what his diagnosis is, and whatever he has we want him to get the help he needs. I think the mom understood, but I think shes just been in denial and hasnt wanted to accept the fact that her baby is different. She also seemed to think that he would have to go to like an autism center and everything else. We explained to her that if he was autistic then he is very high functioning and that we would work with him in anyway we can. I almost started crying myself. I honestly, in my 1st yr of teaching, never thought I would have to do something like that. And I wasnt planning on it, but the dad asked and I felt that to be fair to him we had to be truthful. It was just a hard conference for me because for some reason I feel guilty, yet I know that the boy has some other issues and the best thing is to get him tested ASAP. I told the mom that he was a great kid and that he always helps me and does whatever I ask, and he's a sweet kid. He really is! I was worried about having him in my class at first, but he is a very good student and I want to see him succeed.