Please excuse me for being here and not being a teacher....I am just a mom, but I need advice in the worst way. My daughter is in the fourth grade this year, we've been in school three days. My son is in seventh and they attend a Christian school. We have very small classrooms and they are multiple grades. My daughter...M...is in her second year with this particular teacher and has three classmates (all boys) in 4th and a combined 8 students in 3rd & 4th. Last year we had terrible problems with M not completing her class work and bringing nearly all of it home at night. Math is not her favorite subject and apparently if she gets stuck on something her teacher will not allow her to move through the other subjects until it's finished. M tells me that her teacher won't help her. So she sits all day playing with her pencil and hair and then does all the work at home with me. The teacher is very young, last year was her first year and she is not yet a mother. On Fridays another teacher gave her a day off and M worked very well MOST days for her and enjoyed her very much. Now, I will not say that my daughter is not wrong. I know there are times that it is very difficult to keep her on her work. But I have never failed to get the work completed in the evenings. And mostly all I am doing is staying with her or checking on her to be sure she is working. The senior teacher and I talked last year about not allowing M to move on to other subjects and went to the young teacher... Ms. A and told her this wasn't productive. So, my kids start school on Monday and by Tuesday we had a full days work to do that night. Same thing again today. Math is the first class of the day and M is completing all of it with the exception of 6 problems at the bottom of the second page....this has been the case both days. Then nothing else is being done all day. This morning I walked her to class and told Ms. A that I wanted her to allow M to bring the unfinished math home but work on her other subjects in class. I explained that I felt that she would get behind in all areas otherwise. (I had written a note on the bottom of the homework list but M was afraid to give it to her teacher and asked me to walk her in and talk to her) After school today I get a note from Ms. A saying that she allowed M to work on other subjects but she still refused to do any work. Then she said, "I don't know what else you want me to do". But M tells me that she, "snuck and did half her spelling while Ms. A wasn't looking" and that she didn't let her do her other work. I'm sure there are plenty of things I'm forgetting to include, but this is the bulk of it. What do I do? Do I teach my child at home at night after school? Her comment to me about what do I want her to do completely confuses me. When I ask her what we can do about this she just says, I don't know. I totally get the feeling that this is "my" problem and we aren't going to work together to help the child. And I don't understand that. Does anyone have any insight or advice? Please?