Out of Control

Discussion in 'First Grade' started by jen12, May 9, 2014.

  1. jen12

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    May 9, 2014

    I have a class that is filled with wonderful students, and about five boys who are progressively getting worse.

    They don't respond at all to losing recess, visiting the principal, discussions with parents. One of them tells me he likes getting in trouble and if he's supposed to miss recess, he runs out of the room off to the field.

    I've tried upping the positive reinforcement. That's great for the good kids who continually get rewards, but the ones who misbehave just don't seem to care one way or the other and they're making it more difficult for everyone else. If it was one kid acting out, I could move him away and kind of ignore it, but five of them at the same time make it very difficult to give lessons.

    Then I have one girl who has the most unpleasant personality I've ever seen in a first grader. You'd think she was a snarly middle-schooler. She told me today that everyone is bad because they all hate me. Big gasp from the rest of the class.

    Ugh...

    I'd think it was me, but their kindergarten teachers have told me that the behaviors are in line with what they saw last year, and every other teacher is just saying it's the time of year and they're all seeing the same thing.

    I've never ever had so much difficulty. This is a class that I took as a long term sub for a maternity leave. Fortunately it's only lasting a few weeks more, but I'm very concerned about giving this class back in the state they're in. I also wanted to ask for a letter of recommendation from the principal, but there have already been so many run-ins from kids in my class with her, that I'm afraid it's reflecting very badly on me.

    Honestly...today I'm just ready to cry. :(
     
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  3. kpa1b2

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    May 10, 2014

    First of all deep breath! You've talked to last year's teachers & found out that this is the same behavior as last year. It's not you!Have they been doing it this year with this teacher? Hopefully, you can ask her.

    If they were behaving for her what was she doing? If so, try to implement those ideas.

    If not, you may have to experiment with what works. What do they like? Can they work towards that?

    Try breaking down the day into 1/2 hour to hour increments, maybe shorter if they need it. Make a chart & every increment that they follow directions they get a stamp or mark. After X number of stamps they've earned their reward.

    Good luck!
     
  4. Em_Catz

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    :hugs: It's going to be rough, but if I was in your shoes, I would try to make it through these last few weeks, send students for time out in other classrooms (or whatever the procedure in your school is).

    I remember I buddied up with a sixth grade teacher and she'd send two of her biggest boys to pick up one of my unruly kids and they'd get on either side of him and escort him to her classroom. It was scary to my students because they were very tall (compared to them) and stoic, so that was a small deterrent.

    However, I don't know the culture of your school and if that's appropriate there.

    Just know that you're not alone, nor are you a bad teacher. I've been exactly where you are, and two years ago my coworker (who is a GREAT, tough teacher with excellent management skills) has too. For me, there were six "super awful" boys, 2 "hyper active, medium awful" ones, and 3 or 4 girls that were always cat-fighting, icing someone out to make them cry, or talking non-stop to the point I couldn't teach. I yelled so much I went hoarse several times that year. The P was always in my classroom.

    The worse was when I would stop my lessons to call their parents. The six boys I mentioned would FLIP OUT. They'd start hollering and crying (which would make the other 5 laugh and taunt them), then the physical fighting and insults would start.

    One in particular was extremely ED and when I'd call his mom, he'd start screaming, crying, kicking, ran under a table, started throwing things. (Keep in mind this was the middle of SECOND GRADE, so not even a immature Pre-K or K student). I had to carry him to the office once to protect my class. He screamed even more (drawing the attention of everyone in my hallway) and held onto the door frame.

    The best you can do is reflect on this year and plan for what you want to do differently next year. I'm not saying you haven't been consistant, but I know for me, when I don't start out nipping bad behaviors in the bud from Day One and keeping my thumb on top of the class for the first couple months, then by October, I've lost control.
     
  5. shartran

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    Jul 9, 2014

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    Hi
    I sure feel for you girl! Sounds so 'not fun'!
    The above post mentioned calling the parents.

    Anytime I would encounter such behavior from a child, I would contact the parents. Meet with the parent first and then with the child. The initial meeting is to explain what might be happening within the home to garner such behavior from their child - Ask the parents that you would like to be 'partners' in ensuring their child change their behavior - There are things at home that the child would NOT want taken away from them, etc., Use that as incentive.
    Have the child join into the conversation and create a behavior contract. Use a chart or the agenda, etc., to log a 'good' day or 'bad' - so the parents can see what happened with their child each day - Perhaps if they get 5 or 10, etc., 'good' days the parents could 'reward' them with something they would enjoy.
    Anyways, design like you wish - it's a lot of work...but sounds like you're at 'breaking point'!!!

    Good luck
     
  6. shartran

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    Jul 9, 2014

    late response


    I just noticed the dates...your school is most likely done for the year...Hope you made it
     
  7. Em_Catz

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