Old Bride- just getting started on changing my last name- Process???

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  1. Peachyness

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    We got married a couple of years ago and I've just now begun the process of getting my last name changed. I have NOT looked forward to this at all. It seems like such a hassel. Anyways. I want to make sure that I do everything right. So, here are the steps I'm going to take.

    first step is: getting a new social security card (just printed application)
    second step: getting a new DMV card (just printed application)
    third step: change name on car and home and flood insurance (all at AAA)
    fourth step: get new VISA card and change info at bank
    fifth step: notify other bank where home loan is at of new name (BIGGEST CONCERN!! will this change anything about my loan or affect my loan at all!!! )
    sixth step: notify student loan company of new name
    seventh step:notify school about new name


    Okay, those the steps I thought of. Anything else I missed. Oh, what about taxes. If I let me school know of my new name, do I still need to let the IRS know????

    How long does this whole process take? Anything I need to know before I start this whole process. I hope that since it's summer, I'll be able to take care of all of these quickly and easily.
     
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  3. TeacherGroupie

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    Since a couple of years have elapsed between the registration of the marriage and the change of name, it might be more complicated than the usual - you might want to ask at your county recorder's office.
     
  4. Peachyness

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    Oh dear. Really?? Why do you think it will be more complicated? Just wondering.
     
  5. Peachyness

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    If that's true, then maybe I won't go through the process. We're thinking about maybe, one day, getting remarried anyways. It was kind of weird last time.
     
  6. Tasha

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    I didn't change my name for 3 years after I got married and it was no big deal. You will need to have your marriage license with you for a while as you change things over. Once you have your driver's license and SS card then you can change over other things, library card, movie rentals, etc... The IRS will know that you changed your name based on your social security card name change. Be sure to change over your retirement and IRS forms at work if you have old papers on file. Your loan shouldn't be a problem either. I just filled out one form and they put an addendum on the loan. We have since refinanced and it wasn't a problem.
     
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    I went to the social security office and changed my name and everything was fine. Then, we filed our taxes one year and the numbers didn't match up. The SS office hadn't done anything or messed it up (after 10 years) and I had to do it all over again.
     
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    as long as you change your social security card first, everything else will be fine. As far as loans, everything is determined by social security number anyway, so the bills will still find you:sorry:
     
  9. Peachyness

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    Hee hee. Too bad.
     
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    I didn't say it WOULD be more complicated, but the fact remains that it MIGHT, and it would make sense to ask so you know what you're up against.
     
  11. brigidy

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    When I got divorced I didn't change back to my maiden name for the same reason. Plus, I was just about finished with my masters degree and wanted to make sure the college believed it was me getting the degree. Now, it has been so long that I won't change unless I remarry. On the upside, my ex's new wife hates the fact I still have his name!
     
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    Ah, okay. I will definitely ask tomorrow. Thanks for the heads up!
     
  13. Irishdave

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    K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Silly)
    Just send a certified copy of your marriage license
    to all of them (with any applications.)
     
  14. Peachyness

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    :D I guess I could do that. Will it take longer though????
     
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    Even Califorina can't mess it up :D LOL
     
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    I just got married and changed my name -- while I was in the middle of closing escrow (so I had to change the name on my new loan) and living at a temporary address. I had NO problems. Just do your SS card first, then take that to the DMV to get your new license. Your bank will probably need your new ID plus your marriage certificate. All my credit cards did my name change over the phone.
     
  17. Peachyness

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    I don't know.... you don't know the town I live in. Really. It's... sad... I can't trust anyone to do anything right. But, I guess I could mail stuff in. Beats driving around in the heat.
     
  18. Peachyness

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    That's good to know. One less place to mail things :D
     
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    Assuming the SS office can get it straight the first time. :rolleyes:
     
  20. Caesar753

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    I need to do all this too. I got married about two years ago and haven't officially changed my name, although I've been using the new one socially the whole time.

    On a side note, my husband and I both changed our names to MyName HisName (space, no hyphen).
     
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    I still have one or 2 in my maiden name...
     
  22. Irishdave

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    Why it is great to be a guy…

    I think it is time bring out the
    Why it is great to be a guy…

    post again.

    A 5 day vacation requires only one suitcase
    Bathroom lines are 80% shorter
    We can open all our own jars
    Phone conversations last 30 seconds
    We know useful stuff about tanks and airplanes
    Old friends don’t care if we’ve lost or gained weight
    When surfing channels, we don’t have to stop on every shot of someone crying

    Our last name stays put.
    We can leave a hotel room bed unmade.
    We can kill our own food.
    The garage is all ours.
    We get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.
    We see the humor in “Terms of Endearment”.
    We never have to clean the toilet.
    We can be showered and ready in 10 minutes.
    If someone forgets to invite us to something, they can still be our friend.
    Our underwear costs $6.50 for a pack of 3.
    None of our co-workers have the power to make us cry.
    We don’t have to shave below our neck.
    If we’re 34 and single, no one notices.
    Chocolate is just another snack.
    We can quietly enjoy a car ride from the passenger seat.
    Flowers & duct tape - and we can fix everything.
    We never have to worry about other’s feelings.
    Three pair of shoes are more than enough. Black, Brown, Sneakers
    We can say anything and not worry about what people think.
    We can whip our shirt off on a hot day.
    Car mechanics tell us the truth.
    We don’t give a flip if someone doesn’t notice our new haircut.
    We can watch a game in silence for hours without our buddy thinking “He must be mad at me.”
    One mood, all the time.
    We can admire Clint Eastwood without having to starve ourselves to look like him.
    Same work. More pay.
    Gray hair and wrinkles add character.
    Wedding dress; $2000, Tux rental; 100 bucks.
    We don’t care if someone is talking behind our back.
    We don’t pass on the dessert and then mooch off someone else’s.
    If we retain water, it is in a canteen.
    The remote is all ours.
    We need not pretend we’re “freshening up” to use the bathroom.
    We can go to the bathroom alone.
    If we don’t call our buddy when we said we would, he won’t tell our friends I’ve changed.
    If another guy shows up at the party in the same outfit, we might become lifelong buddies.
    The occasional well-rendered belch is practically expected.
    If something mechanical didn’t work, we can bash it with a hammer and throw it across the room.
    New shoes don’t cut, blister, or mangle our feet.
    We think the idea of punting that small, ankle-biting dog is funny. Really funny.
     
  23. Peachyness

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    Heh. Yeah yeah. My hubby constantly reminds me of this. :p

     
  24. ValinFW

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    Oh, yeah, Dave? Well...
    Why It's Great To Be A Woman!
    All doors are opened and everyone lets you pass.
    You can walk into any meeting without appointment.
    You don't wait in lines.
    You don't have to wear 3 colors all your life.
    You don't have to have one hair do all your life.
    You don't wait for anyone, they always wait for you.
    You can have shoes of different heights.
    Your sensitivities always have to be protected.
    The bedroom is yours.
    The living and dining rooms are yours.
    You decide everything in weddings.
    You decide the color of everything at home.
    Your mother is more important than . . . (Dare I say it?).
    Your father is more important than . . . (Dare I say it?).
    People change tires for you.
    People carry your shopping for you.
    In a restaurant, someone always goes to the toilet with you.
    You can lift your face, many times.
    You can add or remove things to your body and you will be complimented.
    If you said : "I love my mother" no one thinks it sissy.
    If you said : "I love my father" no one thinks you have homosexual
    tendencies.
    You can kiss and hug within your gender.
    In a Shopping Mall, you have a 10 to 1 advantage in the number of shops
    you can visit.
    You get 10 to 1 advantage in weekends visiting your parents.
    You can sit in the lap of the boss and get promoted.
    You can take people to court because they gave you a sexual compliment.
    You can sit in the front seat in class and get better grades.
    No matter how ugly you are, there will be someone to admire your body.
    ALL the great pharmaceutical companies in the world spend R&D money to make you last longer and stay beautiful.
    No one will notice if you are sexually aroused.
    You don't get introduced second.
    When you cause driving accidents, no one beats you up.

    ;)
     
  25. Irishdave

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    Why It's Great To Be A Woman! has to do with a power trip

    All doors are opened and everyone lets you pass. Just like a food taster we want to make sure the coast is clear
    You can walk into any meeting without appointment. (but afterward everyone will made a commit about why)
    You don't wait in lines. excuse me the bath room at the ball park
    You don't have to wear 3 colors all your life. (and that is easier?)
    You don't have to have one hair do all your life.(and that is easier?)
    You don't wait for anyone, they always wait for you. (grumbling the whole time) has to do with a power trip
    You can have shoes of different heights. (but why?)
    Your sensitivities always have to be protected. (just what are they? make a list)
    The bedroom is yours. ok all men do in a bed room is........ and sleep
    The living and dining rooms are yours. well if I can’t put my feet up you can have it
    You decide everything in weddings. has to do with a power trip
    You decide the color of everything at home. has to do with a power trip
    Your mother is more important than . . . (Dare I say it?). has to do with a power trip
    Your father is more important than . . . (Dare I say it?). has to do with a power trip
    People change tires for you. And we have fun doing it
    People carry your shopping for you. And we have fun doing it re: barbell
    In a restaurant, someone always goes to the toilet with you. I still don’t know why?
    You can lift your face, many times. and that is as heavy as a barbell?
    You can add or remove things to your body and you will be complimented. Hmmmmm
    If you said : "I love my mother" no one thinks it sissy. “any man who loves his mother is man enough for me!”
    If you said : "I love my father" no one thinks you have homosexual tendencies. there is a whole business built on that
    You can kiss and hug within your gender. thank you there is a whole business built on that too
    In a Shopping Mall, you have a 10 to 1 advantage in the number of shops you can visit. And still there are not enough benches for the men to sit on!
    You get 10 to 1 advantage in weekends visiting your parents. and your point is?
    You can sit in the lap of the boss and get promoted. has to do with a power
    You can take people to court because they gave you a sexual compliment. AGAIN has to do with a power
    You can sit in the front seat in class and get better grades. thank you so when we pass by we get an extra look
    No matter how ugly you are, there will be someone to admire your body. at closing time!
    ALL the great pharmaceutical companies in the world spend R&D money to make you last longer and stay beautiful. thank you my stocks are rising
    No one will notice if you are sexually aroused. but we can tell if it is cold out!
    You don't get introduced second. has to do with a power
    When you cause driving accidents, no one beats you up. but it is still your fault
    :D :) :D :) :angel:
     
  26. kinderkids

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    Dave, you gave me a good laugh......these were my favorites! And they are so true! LOL:p
     
  27. Irishdave

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    Ok one other thing
    Why is it when a woman says something is wrong a man will try to fix it
    but
    the woman only wants to talk about it!

    WE Men and hunters and "fixers" we are not talkers
    (unless we are in a bar with:
    a. Our buddies and seeing who can tell the biggest lie
    OR
    b. Our date and trying to tell the biggest lie so we can impress her.)
     
  28. kinderkids

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    Because men are from Mars and women are from Venus?
     
  29. ValinFW

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    Ha! That's all I can come up with. Summer school has zapped the creativity right out of me! :rolleyes: One more day!
     
  30. deserttrumpet

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    When I changed my last name I did things a bit backwards. The county I married in only had the social security people around on the 2nd and 3rd Thursday of every month and we had just missed it. However, the lady at the DMV changed my driver’s license no problem. My hubby and I moved and the new county had a permanent social security office so in we went to officially change my name. Boy oh boy, did the lady have a fit that I already had a driver’s license in my married name before I had officially changed it!
     
  31. Irishdave

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    What County in AZ was that backward? only the 2nd and 3rd Thursday of every month!
     
  32. musicteach

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    This thread cracked me up, because I got married 4 years ago and just turned in my application to the Social Security office Monday to officially change my last name. I had already changed my name on my driver's license and accounts, but had never gotten around to doing the soc card...I was worried it would be a hassle doing it now, but I printed out the app & took it to the office, and it took literally 5 minutes. As long as you have an original copy of your marriage license, you should be fine.
     
  33. Irishdave

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    Please refer to post #12, of mine (a man) LOL
    I was right!
    Now I can do my "I was right, dance in my computer chair"

    ((__|__)) ((__\__)) ((__|__)) ((__/__)) ((__|__)) ((__\__)) ((__|__))
    ((__/__)) ((__|__)) ((__\__)) ((__|__)) ((__/__)) ((__|__)) ((__\__))
    :eek: :eek: :) :angel: :D :D :D :D :D :D

    BTW "original copy" is an oxymoron


    Note to self: Self, add "Knows how to work with bureaucracy" to "Great to be a guy" list.
     
  34. Peachyness

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    This is TOO funny. I LOVE your dance.
     

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